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I'm trying to put together a plan, to demonstrate to the social worker that i am a protective parent and to hopefully begin contact between children and father, we are now 13 weeks down the line and nothing in place! Is there anything i could add besides, no overnight visits, only supervised contact for 4hrs a day, so that I'm always present. No mobile phones to be brought into the house...
Hi Al24
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I am supervising contact between my husband and son from almost 9 months so can give you some tips. Although when your agreeing to no overnight stays and supervised contact only that should show you are being protective as you are acknowledging the risks and trying to manage it in the safe way possible. However SS are very black and white people. Instead of supporting families they try their best ti destroy them. Anyways I am not sure how old your kids are, if they are young that you can add no personal care tasks by your husband and he will not be present in the room while you are changing your kids. Husband can't have access to your kids electronic devices. Also you need to think about what you will do if you need to pop out for tea or loo while your husband at home. Depending on your kids age you can teach them age appropriate safety things etc. Last but not least may be you are already doing it i.e. get all the knowledge of your husband offenses of what he has done.
I am so sorry that you are in this situation. I am supervising contact between my husband and son from almost 9 months so can give you some tips. Although when your agreeing to no overnight stays and supervised contact only that should show you are being protective as you are acknowledging the risks and trying to manage it in the safe way possible. However SS are very black and white people. Instead of supporting families they try their best ti destroy them. Anyways I am not sure how old your kids are, if they are young that you can add no personal care tasks by your husband and he will not be present in the room while you are changing your kids. Husband can't have access to your kids electronic devices. Also you need to think about what you will do if you need to pop out for tea or loo while your husband at home. Depending on your kids age you can teach them age appropriate safety things etc. Last but not least may be you are already doing it i.e. get all the knowledge of your husband offenses of what he has done.
Thank you so much, that's a great help.
Hi,
Our plan also includes no playdates/visits from other children to our home - not sure how strict you need to be if he's having supervised visits, but you may want to include that.
Our plan also includes no playdates/visits from other children to our home - not sure how strict you need to be if he's having supervised visits, but you may want to include that.
Thank you. It's looking like they still won't allow any contact, until the end of the investigation unfortunately
Gosh how difficult for your children (and you I suspect having to deal with the fallout) I hope they have given you a good explanation - rather than it being the easier option for them?!
I am really surprised that they won't allow any contact at all. Have you been through a child protection conference yet? I found that Childrens Services were most concerned whether contact would be supervised properly and you may not have enough information to understand the risk yet. I pushed childrens services to show me the risk and the police gave me a disclosure even though investigation was ongoing. There was a lot that my children's father had not told me. You need to ask for more information now as the investigation can drag on - in our case three years.