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Just feel like I'm straight back to square one! So we had the knock October 2017 for IIOC 2 cat A 4 cat B and 4 cat C. Kicked my husband out and started divorce. Had magistrate court on 16/5/2019 it was in the paper and social media, terrifying!!! Went to crown court, no press thank god so no more reports in the paper or pictures of him. 8 months suspended, community order and 10 years on register. Anyway a year on he breached his condition by not registering a device, went to magistrate court 10/7/20 said they can't deal with it, so crown court is now on the 3/8/20 and I am terrified it's going to be all in the papers again this time with photos, my little girls mental health is so bad because he left 3 years ago and now there is a good possibility he'll go to prison, I don't know how she'll cope, she keeps saying she wants to kill herself, she's only 10!
I can't believe he's so selfish, doing this to her, last time it was in the paper, people didn't realise it was her dad, but if a picture goes in this time, people will know it's him, I'm worried she'll be bullied and parents won't let their kids play with her, she knows her dad was arrested but not what for, I'm scared they will tell her. My anxiety is through the roof again!
Sorry for the rant, much love Char xx
I can't believe he's so selfish, doing this to her, last time it was in the paper, people didn't realise it was her dad, but if a picture goes in this time, people will know it's him, I'm worried she'll be bullied and parents won't let their kids play with her, she knows her dad was arrested but not what for, I'm scared they will tell her. My anxiety is through the roof again!
Sorry for the rant, much love Char xx
Hello Cher
We have noticed that you have not yet received any replies from other members of the forum and I understand that although a lot may have changed since this post, I hope the below advice will still be able to offer you some guidance and support.
I am so sorry to hear that you have had to experience the court proceedings twice and the negative impact that this has had on yourself and your daughter. It is important that you daughter has access to the right support to process these difficult emotions. Have you considered visiting your GP to see if there is any support they can recommend for your daughter? You may also wish to consider contacting her school via the head teacher or safeguarding officer, as she may be able to access additional support there.
There are several organisations where your daughter can reach out for some support regarding her mental health directly including ChildLine which offer support online and on the phone https://www.childline.org.uk/ There is also an organisation called Kooth which is an online mental wellbeing community for young people which your daughter may find helpful https://www.kooth.com/
I understand that finding out that a loved one has accessed indecent material can come as a huge shock and be extremely difficult. I recognise that this would have had a major impact on not only your daughter’s well-being, but also yours as a mother and a wife. If you have not already done so, I encourage you to call our anonymous and confidential helpline for on-going support and advice on 0808 1000 900. I hope you and your daughter are able to access the support you need.
Take care,
Lucy
We have noticed that you have not yet received any replies from other members of the forum and I understand that although a lot may have changed since this post, I hope the below advice will still be able to offer you some guidance and support.
I am so sorry to hear that you have had to experience the court proceedings twice and the negative impact that this has had on yourself and your daughter. It is important that you daughter has access to the right support to process these difficult emotions. Have you considered visiting your GP to see if there is any support they can recommend for your daughter? You may also wish to consider contacting her school via the head teacher or safeguarding officer, as she may be able to access additional support there.
There are several organisations where your daughter can reach out for some support regarding her mental health directly including ChildLine which offer support online and on the phone https://www.childline.org.uk/ There is also an organisation called Kooth which is an online mental wellbeing community for young people which your daughter may find helpful https://www.kooth.com/
I understand that finding out that a loved one has accessed indecent material can come as a huge shock and be extremely difficult. I recognise that this would have had a major impact on not only your daughter’s well-being, but also yours as a mother and a wife. If you have not already done so, I encourage you to call our anonymous and confidential helpline for on-going support and advice on 0808 1000 900. I hope you and your daughter are able to access the support you need.
Take care,
Lucy