Scaremongering or the truth?
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Hi just really looking for some help from people in Scotland... my ex fiancé was caught in September last year still awaiting sentencing. When it happened everyone told me to leave him I'd have no future etc having children is a big thing to me and i can't wait to have some. However I grew up in care and am still involved with social services from a distance. When it happened my social worker told me I'd have no chance at having children with him if I fell pregnant when I gave birth they'd come to the hospital and make me choose the baby or him and could take my baby. This obviously upset me as I couldn't cope with that. But I don't understand it as my father was on the register but was allowed me home and looked after me from 1-3yo. I still love my ex and am trying to sort things but what kind of future would that be if they'd take my baby. I do trust my ex and truly believe he's sorry and would never hurt a child
Hi Christine
im also in Scotland but a different issue. My son commited a communication offence and is currently in prison. Some of us have spoken on mumsnet under our same names but I' think the site have perhaps said we can't put our user names on here anymore. I'm not sure if this is true or not but you could try that if you like in the hope of linking up with people.
as far as your situation goes, I have no young children. Just a young grandson. I'm led to believe that my son will be allowed to see his nephew after assessments are completed. I'm hoping this is true. I also know that our son and grandson will not be allowed overnight in the same house for some time to come.
i wouldn't lose hope if I were you because I've read stories on here of people putting their family back together and all living together after an offence. The key thing from what I've read is to co operate with social worker and that it takes a long time. Hard work from what ive read but worth it if your partner/husband/son/ etc want to change and keep their family together x
im also in Scotland but a different issue. My son commited a communication offence and is currently in prison. Some of us have spoken on mumsnet under our same names but I' think the site have perhaps said we can't put our user names on here anymore. I'm not sure if this is true or not but you could try that if you like in the hope of linking up with people.
as far as your situation goes, I have no young children. Just a young grandson. I'm led to believe that my son will be allowed to see his nephew after assessments are completed. I'm hoping this is true. I also know that our son and grandson will not be allowed overnight in the same house for some time to come.
i wouldn't lose hope if I were you because I've read stories on here of people putting their family back together and all living together after an offence. The key thing from what I've read is to co operate with social worker and that it takes a long time. Hard work from what ive read but worth it if your partner/husband/son/ etc want to change and keep their family together x
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Hi,
Have you tried calling the helpline? They will be able to offer you advice and know how social services work etc. The family rights group may also be able to help.
Lots of people on here have children and stay with their partners ( I also seem to recall a lady who had a baby with her partner whilst he was on the register, so it does seem possible. It won’t be easy but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a family.
Hope you get the answers you want.
X
Have you tried calling the helpline? They will be able to offer you advice and know how social services work etc. The family rights group may also be able to help.
Lots of people on here have children and stay with their partners ( I also seem to recall a lady who had a baby with her partner whilst he was on the register, so it does seem possible. It won’t be easy but that doesn’t mean you can’t have a family.
Hope you get the answers you want.
X