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This week my husband is due in court for sentencing. He is hopefully not looking at a custodial sentence but I guess we will have to wait and see what happens.
Life just seems pretty damn awful at the moment. I'm overwhelmed by now effectively being a 'single parent' but one that can't share any parenting care with him. I feel trapped and sad - I can no longer spontaneously pop out to see friends or have time on my own at the weekend. We always shared childcare pretty much 50/50 and spending time with my friends was something I loved to do. Coupled with this, we now have major financial worries (he is about to lose his job) and I've been suspended from mine (I didn't disclose my situation to them early enough) and we are likely to have to sell our family house which we love. I'm also dreading the school run this week as I have no idea who knows and who doesn't (the pre sentence hearing was in the paper) Both of our children absolutely love him to bits and they struggle if he isn't at home so he's spending as much time here as SS allow (he's living with a relative)
I'm an absolute mess. I can't quite believe how much our life has changed.
Can anyone give me any positive stories of what life is like post sentencing on on the register?
Life just seems pretty damn awful at the moment. I'm overwhelmed by now effectively being a 'single parent' but one that can't share any parenting care with him. I feel trapped and sad - I can no longer spontaneously pop out to see friends or have time on my own at the weekend. We always shared childcare pretty much 50/50 and spending time with my friends was something I loved to do. Coupled with this, we now have major financial worries (he is about to lose his job) and I've been suspended from mine (I didn't disclose my situation to them early enough) and we are likely to have to sell our family house which we love. I'm also dreading the school run this week as I have no idea who knows and who doesn't (the pre sentence hearing was in the paper) Both of our children absolutely love him to bits and they struggle if he isn't at home so he's spending as much time here as SS allow (he's living with a relative)
I'm an absolute mess. I can't quite believe how much our life has changed.
Can anyone give me any positive stories of what life is like post sentencing on on the register?
Sorry Bellebee but I don't have any advice regarding life post sentencing we are not at that point yet but you've touched on so many relatable points loosing jobs childcare and finances housing issues. It's these things that will break me and which ultimately will not be in the best interests of our children. The ripple of these crimes are so far reaching its unreal how can this be the best way? Really thinking of you xx
Thanks for your reply summer... much appreciated.
All for less than ten images too which he didn't go looking for - and only the once.
It's heartbreaking and has far reaching consequences. I'm utterly exhausted by it all.
All for less than ten images too which he didn't go looking for - and only the once.
It's heartbreaking and has far reaching consequences. I'm utterly exhausted by it all.
Yes it is exhausting, in my case not images but a convoersatiin with a undercover officer he thought he was catching a catfish well that didn't work out anyhow Just the one no others nothing else on computer which would suggest into children no asking to meet or anything and my life is an utter mess. All both of us have worked hard for down the drain really will never be able to give the children the same oppertunities and really for what? An error of judgement. I fully get they need to investigate as could be the tip if the iceburg but it really shouldn't take so long and prob like your hubby what not monitor them for 10 years any slips then throw the book when these aregoid men who've made stupid mistakes sorry for rant!
you must be doing amazing holding it all together your children will one day realise what a fab mum they have fighting for what is best! X
you must be doing amazing holding it all together your children will one day realise what a fab mum they have fighting for what is best! X
Hi Belle how are you hunny? Has the court case happened yet??
I have just posted myself around how tough this all is. ... regardless of what stage it's upto!!
As tough as it is for you all love...the limbo land hell will finally be over and your little family can start to move forward in whatever way you can.
Thinking of you.
Sending love and strength xxxx
I have just posted myself around how tough this all is. ... regardless of what stage it's upto!!
As tough as it is for you all love...the limbo land hell will finally be over and your little family can start to move forward in whatever way you can.
Thinking of you.
Sending love and strength xxxx
Hello lovely Rainbow,
Thanks for your message. Yes, sentencing was yesterday - it was all over very quickly (in 40 mins) He got a two yr suspended sentence. He didn't see a reporter there but I'm keeping an eye on the local paper to see if anything is reported - it would be amazing if not but thinking we won't be that lucky! I'm grateful that the legal side is now done and dusted.. just my horrible work situation is still in limbo.
I'm utterly exhausted today and really flat.
Thinking of you too during this difficult time xxx
Thanks for your message. Yes, sentencing was yesterday - it was all over very quickly (in 40 mins) He got a two yr suspended sentence. He didn't see a reporter there but I'm keeping an eye on the local paper to see if anything is reported - it would be amazing if not but thinking we won't be that lucky! I'm grateful that the legal side is now done and dusted.. just my horrible work situation is still in limbo.
I'm utterly exhausted today and really flat.
Thinking of you too during this difficult time xxx
My husband goes to magastates in Oct my daughter and son say iam dead to them. His step children. My daughter has also stopped me seeing the grandkids, iam broken and have done nothing wrong. Glad that the case is over for you. I have lost my job, sold house don't know how iam still alive to be honest x
Hello Belle,
Awww I am so glad to hear he didn't get a custodial and fingers crossed about the media love!!
How are you feeling now? Is he still coming to spend time with yous at home?
I am struggling so much right now. I miss him every night when he leaves us yet the only alternative is to make the break with him completely n I can't do that.
I hope one day it's all a distant and horrif memory for us all. Xxxx
Awww I am so glad to hear he didn't get a custodial and fingers crossed about the media love!!
How are you feeling now? Is he still coming to spend time with yous at home?
I am struggling so much right now. I miss him every night when he leaves us yet the only alternative is to make the break with him completely n I can't do that.
I hope one day it's all a distant and horrif memory for us all. Xxxx