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Vic87

Member since
October 2018

39 posts

Posted Mon December 31, 2018 8:18pmReport post

So three months in and I am having a big wobble

So the police called my husband back in for interview as they have finished with his laptop ect and his baraster told him to admit that he has a porn addiction to the police and that he has done he has now got to go to court next month on the 10th now I am just sat here with so much going on in my head

I love my husband I really do and he has never really been one to admit his faults or show his emotions so for him to admit and talk to me and others that he has spoken to is a very big step. He has spoken to stop it now today and he said the lady was nice and it has helped him talking. I am praying to God that one day he can come home.

I just can't see why there is more out there for this kind of addiction it's fine if your a drug addict gambling or alcohol I have sat here for a few days and can't find any where local to us where he can seek help other than phone calls to stop it now .

I am going through all the emotions I did when this first happened. The kids keep me on my toes but I am so lonely at night and can't switch off . Has anyone who has husband/partner that has downloaded images been able to live at home after all of the court ect any info would be great need some hope

Sorry for going on any way happy new year to all of us holding the hatches down and keep going let's all hope we have a better 2019 X X

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Maria

Member since
September 2018

286 posts

Posted Mon December 31, 2018 8:49pmReport post

Has he tried sex addicts anonymous they do online meetings if you have nothing local. He could even buy the books and have a sponsor even if there is nothing local. My husband finds it a huge support and totally non judgemental. Theres sometimes local help, gp or stop it now may be able to advise whats in your area. My husband didnt download images, it was a sexual communication so slightly different but he is allowed at home supervised by me he just cant sleep at home. That agreement was after risk assessments etc and could change if he is charged or convicted. The best people to ask for help and advice are the stop it now helpline, they have a huge amount of knowlege and might be able to help with where he can get help.