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Hi I was wondering if someone could answer me this question please?
My partner is expecting his charges this week. How will they be delivered to him? I'm wondering whether there will be a document given to him outlining what the charges are? I won't be going with him so I want to be able to read everything and understand the severity and understand the detail.
Then if anyone knows will it enter the newspaper then? I'm starting to feel anxious it's going to hit local media / social media. Iv already taken myself off socials a few weeks back in preparations for this. I feel sick with the dread of it all.
I read a recent post from somebody reporters arnt allowed in court due to covid? Can anyone confirm? This may give me a glimmer of hope for a bit of privacy in such a horrendous situation.
There has been 2 extensions from the bail so far so praying by the end of this week there will be an outcome and I cam finally move on with my life.
Thank you all for reading and sending you strength and hope.
Yaz x
My partner is expecting his charges this week. How will they be delivered to him? I'm wondering whether there will be a document given to him outlining what the charges are? I won't be going with him so I want to be able to read everything and understand the severity and understand the detail.
Then if anyone knows will it enter the newspaper then? I'm starting to feel anxious it's going to hit local media / social media. Iv already taken myself off socials a few weeks back in preparations for this. I feel sick with the dread of it all.
I read a recent post from somebody reporters arnt allowed in court due to covid? Can anyone confirm? This may give me a glimmer of hope for a bit of privacy in such a horrendous situation.
There has been 2 extensions from the bail so far so praying by the end of this week there will be an outcome and I cam finally move on with my life.
Thank you all for reading and sending you strength and hope.
Yaz x
Hi
My hb got a letter through the post detailing the charges and when his first hearing in the magistrates court will be. Prior to this we had no information from the police for 17 months. It just came out of the blue.
However, not all police areas work the same. I have heard of people get letters hand delivered and others that get called into a police station.
Whatever the delivery method, it is still a shock as you get used to the 'limbo' and it is a jolt back to the knock and its life changing implications.
Best of luck
Izzy
My hb got a letter through the post detailing the charges and when his first hearing in the magistrates court will be. Prior to this we had no information from the police for 17 months. It just came out of the blue.
However, not all police areas work the same. I have heard of people get letters hand delivered and others that get called into a police station.
Whatever the delivery method, it is still a shock as you get used to the 'limbo' and it is a jolt back to the knock and its life changing implications.
Best of luck
Izzy
Hi Izzy
Thank you for your reply. I think he will visit the police station for the charges I just want to see the paperwork for my own sanity.
I hope your doing okay. Are you staying with you hb?
Yaz x
Thank you for your reply. I think he will visit the police station for the charges I just want to see the paperwork for my own sanity.
I hope your doing okay. Are you staying with you hb?
Yaz x
Hi Yazznan
Thanks for your reply. No, we are no longer together, but we do communicate regularly. I did not rush into any decisions but after 6 months of absolute silence, after the knock, from my hb I asked him to leave. He has never been prepared to discuss what he has done. I don't even know the fine detail of the charges. He won't let me see any of the paperwork or tell me what the police asked him about at the initial interview. I feel that I have been shut out of his life twice. Once when he was committing the offences and ever since the knock when he refuses to discuss his acitivities on line. In order to repair the situation, I needed to understand what had gone on and why. My life had been turned upside down (and blasted to bits) without any sort of warning and I think I deserved some explanation. I am sure I was in shock for several months afterwards. There had already been too much secrecy. The lack of knowledge has been an additional pain for me. So after over 30 years of marriage I decided I had been hurt enough and I had to move on alone.
All the best for whatever future you choose.
Izzy
Thanks for your reply. No, we are no longer together, but we do communicate regularly. I did not rush into any decisions but after 6 months of absolute silence, after the knock, from my hb I asked him to leave. He has never been prepared to discuss what he has done. I don't even know the fine detail of the charges. He won't let me see any of the paperwork or tell me what the police asked him about at the initial interview. I feel that I have been shut out of his life twice. Once when he was committing the offences and ever since the knock when he refuses to discuss his acitivities on line. In order to repair the situation, I needed to understand what had gone on and why. My life had been turned upside down (and blasted to bits) without any sort of warning and I think I deserved some explanation. I am sure I was in shock for several months afterwards. There had already been too much secrecy. The lack of knowledge has been an additional pain for me. So after over 30 years of marriage I decided I had been hurt enough and I had to move on alone.
All the best for whatever future you choose.
Izzy
Oh Izzy
I can't even comprehend how hard that would of been for you. How selfish he didn't even give you some explanation to the hurt he inflicted on you I feel angry for you.
My partner was questioned 4 yrs ago for alleged viewing images on a shared computer. He cannot prove he didn't as others had access and arnt going to own up to it.
He got with me just over a year ago. But never told me he was awaiting police to conclude their investigation. He has basically hidden from the police, living in shared houses not being registered anywhere so they couldn't find him. Until June this year the police traced him and I got the knock. To say the floor went from beneath me is an understatement.
He's protested his innocence from day one. I don't know what to believe. At first like your hb he refused to talk about it. He has a little since. Charges should of happened in Aug, then they were extended till Sept, now supposed to happen sometime this week.
On paper he's my best friend but my heads telling me to walk away. I'm going to pay Someway down the line. I hope you feel some clarity in your life now you've made your decision and your happy. Thank you for sharing too xx
I can't even comprehend how hard that would of been for you. How selfish he didn't even give you some explanation to the hurt he inflicted on you I feel angry for you.
My partner was questioned 4 yrs ago for alleged viewing images on a shared computer. He cannot prove he didn't as others had access and arnt going to own up to it.
He got with me just over a year ago. But never told me he was awaiting police to conclude their investigation. He has basically hidden from the police, living in shared houses not being registered anywhere so they couldn't find him. Until June this year the police traced him and I got the knock. To say the floor went from beneath me is an understatement.
He's protested his innocence from day one. I don't know what to believe. At first like your hb he refused to talk about it. He has a little since. Charges should of happened in Aug, then they were extended till Sept, now supposed to happen sometime this week.
On paper he's my best friend but my heads telling me to walk away. I'm going to pay Someway down the line. I hope you feel some clarity in your life now you've made your decision and your happy. Thank you for sharing too xx
The outcome is usually on the net for the court and printed in the papers. I was told it's pot luck as to wether they make a story out of it or not.
There are alot of vigilante groups that will publish and share this information on social media though.
There are alot of vigilante groups that will publish and share this information on social media though.
Hi mum in distress
Thank you for sharing I didn't know that. Are these groups even allowed? Great more anxiety for me now.
I read a post recently no reporters even attended. I'm just praying for a discreet end to such a nightmare.
I hope your doing okay xx
Thank you for sharing I didn't know that. Are these groups even allowed? Great more anxiety for me now.
I read a post recently no reporters even attended. I'm just praying for a discreet end to such a nightmare.
I hope your doing okay xx
The only reason i dont want this stuff published is because I can't move away and I can't change the kids names. I don't give a monkeys what happens to him.
I hear you on the anxiety, the clock ticks louder everyday x
I hear you on the anxiety, the clock ticks louder everyday x
Hi mum in distress
I hear you when you say the clocks ring louder every day. This is consuming me already. I feel so embarrassed and I haven't even done anything.
I too ain't moving. Why should I or you? We are not responsible for any of this.
Can you request his name isn't read to protect your children from it is that an option?
I hope you and your children are doing the best you can.
Best wishes
Yaz x
I hear you when you say the clocks ring louder every day. This is consuming me already. I feel so embarrassed and I haven't even done anything.
I too ain't moving. Why should I or you? We are not responsible for any of this.
Can you request his name isn't read to protect your children from it is that an option?
I hope you and your children are doing the best you can.
Best wishes
Yaz x
no, apparently we can't. The police have already checked on that for us. We have a distinctive family name. I can change mine and already use a different name for work.
Children can be so cruel and if I could live away from here just to protect them from being the kid with soneone who has committed sexual offences for a dad and keep them from their dad I'd do it in a heartbeat. I don't want people whispering about me or them.
Children can be so cruel and if I could live away from here just to protect them from being the kid with soneone who has committed sexual offences for a dad and keep them from their dad I'd do it in a heartbeat. I don't want people whispering about me or them.
Hi ladies
We were told as well that the offender can't get any privacy in court, unless in very special circumstances which are apparently near impossible to get!
I just wondered where the court outcomes are posted on the net? I tried to google it but didn't get any clear answer.
wishing you all the best
Mabel x
We were told as well that the offender can't get any privacy in court, unless in very special circumstances which are apparently near impossible to get!
I just wondered where the court outcomes are posted on the net? I tried to google it but didn't get any clear answer.
wishing you all the best
Mabel x