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Suicide after arrest.. So lost and confused

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Belinda

Member since
October 2020

2 posts

Posted Sat October 17, 2020 11:41amReport post

A few months ago I was at home with my husband and our 2 young children when we got the knock at the door at 7am, my husband was arrested and our house was searched.

My husband admitted to the police to online viewing, sharing images, he was then bailed to his parents house.

The following morning my husband committed suicide.

I am so lost, and I have so many questions that will now never be answered. I am full of anger and rage at my husband, has anyone else been in a similar situation? Does it ever start to get better??

Madeleine

Member since
November 2018

42 posts

Posted Mon October 19, 2020 10:04pmReport post

How utterly appalling. have no words of advice, but I just wanted to reach out to you in sincere heartfelt sympathy. The knock and the whole situation is indescribably awful enough, but to have your husband commit suicide as well must be simply unbearable. I hope you can find support around you. Do phone the helpline - they are wonderful. Do please look after yourself. Thinking of you.

BelleBee

Member since
April 2020

149 posts

Posted Mon October 19, 2020 10:18pmReport post

Dear Belinda,

I have no words of advice other than I'm so very sorry to hear about what has happened to your family. How devastating. I'm quite sure you have experienced every possible emotion and thats absolutely understandable. I hope you are getting lots of support? I'd also suggest that you call the helpline if you haven't already done so.
Sending you and your children much love.



xx

Yazznan

Member since
July 2020

211 posts

Posted Tue October 20, 2020 8:35amReport post

Hi Belinda

Iv just read your post and wanted to send my love to you and your children. I can't comprehend what your going through. I'm so very very sorry.



Yaz xxxx

Marie.D

Member since
February 2020

109 posts

Posted Tue October 20, 2020 9:38amReport post

Oh my god, Im so sorry. I don’t have any advice, I just couldn’t read your post and not say anything.

I hope you can find a way to move forward somehow.

Sending you love. X

Rainbowgirl80

Member since
May 2020

204 posts

Posted Tue October 20, 2020 9:42amReport post

Belinda, I am so very sorry to hear about your husband. I can't even imagine how you're feeling right now. This is hard enough for the rest of us. I can imagine you're still in shock at the moment. Are you getting support through the gp? Counselling?

I know I read a case similar on here months ago so maybe that lady will come forward to offer you support.

I hope you have plenty of support around you. Don't listen when others say be strong. You need to allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you need to.

Take care lovely xxxxxx

majestictopaz15

Member since
December 2019

371 posts

Posted Tue October 20, 2020 11:03amReport post

My partner tried to commit suicide on the night he was arrested. He had been offending across a decade and never knew how to get help. On the arrest he felt like there was no hope. It is horrible that you will not hear from him how he got involved. There are resources and the helpline to help looking the reasons why many get stuck in this horrible cycle and view iioc. Perhaps others stories could help get some understanding. Every case is unique but there are similarities with many.