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I need help and advice. Husband has no further action so has contacted Social Services today to try and ask for a Risk Assessment to be carried out.
at our last CIN meeting last December he was told this could not be carried out until a decision was made on the case. If he was charged it would be the courts to carry out risk assessment if it was no charge as it has fortunately happened then social services would complete it.
husband has finally got hold of them today and I've had a call which I missed this evening saying they need to talk to me.
im so worried I can't go back to justifying myself as a good and protective mom.
has anyone been in this situation.
at our last CIN meeting last December he was told this could not be carried out until a decision was made on the case. If he was charged it would be the courts to carry out risk assessment if it was no charge as it has fortunately happened then social services would complete it.
husband has finally got hold of them today and I've had a call which I missed this evening saying they need to talk to me.
im so worried I can't go back to justifying myself as a good and protective mom.
has anyone been in this situation.
Hi sorry I can’t offer any advice as I’m just at the start of my fight. 2 weeks since the knock and just had my first CIN meeting. I hope u don’t mind me asking if u managed to get in contact with SS and get ur answer?
Hello unhappy, did you manage to get in touch with SS?
My experience is fairly similar to yours. Husband had NFA. SS done an assessment with me based on my husband staying with us & the CPS's deciaion to not press charges. SS then closed the case the following week with me marked down as a protective parent.
Remember, they're there to offer guidance and support not just to judge. Keep an open mind but be mindful to show them how you'll protect your children.
My experience is fairly similar to yours. Husband had NFA. SS done an assessment with me based on my husband staying with us & the CPS's deciaion to not press charges. SS then closed the case the following week with me marked down as a protective parent.
Remember, they're there to offer guidance and support not just to judge. Keep an open mind but be mindful to show them how you'll protect your children.
Hi Unhappy
Please try to see NFA as a positive. Its what most of us dream will happen to our partners or loved one!
Of course, the reunion of your family is still your choice. I hope SS treat you fairly and quickly move on xxx
Please try to see NFA as a positive. Its what most of us dream will happen to our partners or loved one!
Of course, the reunion of your family is still your choice. I hope SS treat you fairly and quickly move on xxx
Thank you all for your support. Do any of you know what's involved in this risk assessment what they will ask both of us?
husband hasn't lived with since the arrest in February 2019 and as made me say we were superated to close the case with them. I'm so worried it could all back fire on me if I say I will give him a second chance if risk assessment comes back low. If they don't do the risk assessment he isn't allowed home and we will have to carry on with the closing plan.
this forum is my life saver there no friends or family which truly understand the situation some days I don't feel I can keep going. When the no further action decision was made I cried but it felt like the weight of shame guilt and worry had gone. Now it's back again and I feel I'm back at ground zero.
I thought that as would do the assessment on my husband and then contact me. I just can't understand how me and the kids have been brought into this so early on. I won't do anything to risk ss taking my kids from me.
husband hasn't lived with since the arrest in February 2019 and as made me say we were superated to close the case with them. I'm so worried it could all back fire on me if I say I will give him a second chance if risk assessment comes back low. If they don't do the risk assessment he isn't allowed home and we will have to carry on with the closing plan.
this forum is my life saver there no friends or family which truly understand the situation some days I don't feel I can keep going. When the no further action decision was made I cried but it felt like the weight of shame guilt and worry had gone. Now it's back again and I feel I'm back at ground zero.
I thought that as would do the assessment on my husband and then contact me. I just can't understand how me and the kids have been brought into this so early on. I won't do anything to risk ss taking my kids from me.
Ss have contacted me to inform me that I will allocated another social worker some point next week. God help me ground hog day again.
rusty123 the only advice I can give you is to show you will stop at nothing to keep kids safe however they will threaten you with everything under the sun but as long as you show you are protective they can't take your kids from you.
take care rusty123 my heart and thoughts are with you.
rusty123 the only advice I can give you is to show you will stop at nothing to keep kids safe however they will threaten you with everything under the sun but as long as you show you are protective they can't take your kids from you.
take care rusty123 my heart and thoughts are with you.