Struggling to be intimate
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Just wondering if anyone has stayed with their partners and are struggling to be intimate? I can't stop thinking about what he's done and worry he's thinking about those images/youngsters it's horrible
I have had these concerns and at times could not get intimate. I discussed this with my partner and he reassured me that he doesnt think about children and young people and only has interest in adults.
Maybe in time you will feel more comfortable. I would recommend seeking help with trying to not think about it too much. Not to ignore it but to limit your distress. CBT might help process the thoughts.
Maybe in time you will feel more comfortable. I would recommend seeking help with trying to not think about it too much. Not to ignore it but to limit your distress. CBT might help process the thoughts.
Hi Christine
For me i wanted to be intimate with my partner as soon as possible as i wanted to make sure he Was still there.
It did take a while and a fair bit of reassurance from him that what he was doing was completely separate from me and our relationship. However... I did realise he had become quite sexually desensitised which he admitted he had too. 6 months on and our sex life is more passionate and loving than its been in years.
Hope that helps xxxx
For me i wanted to be intimate with my partner as soon as possible as i wanted to make sure he Was still there.
It did take a while and a fair bit of reassurance from him that what he was doing was completely separate from me and our relationship. However... I did realise he had become quite sexually desensitised which he admitted he had too. 6 months on and our sex life is more passionate and loving than its been in years.
Hope that helps xxxx
I just can't get it out my mind
It's been over a year for us and I feel I have no control and can't understand it till and still worried I'm not getting the whole truth
Well how do you trust someone is giving you the full truth after that?
How is he meant to prove it?
He has done the stop it now course, he could still delete his history off his phone so I don't think that would work. I don't think he'd be stupid enough to do it again but it's all so scary and I have trust issues regardless... we're a year in and it's not getting better