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I have had these concerns and at times could not get intimate. I discussed this with my partner and he reassured me that he doesnt think about children and young people and only has interest in adults.

Maybe in time you will feel more comfortable. I would recommend seeking help with trying to not think about it too much. Not to ignore it but to limit your distress. CBT might help process the thoughts.

Hi Christine

For me i wanted to be intimate with my partner as soon as possible as i wanted to make sure he Was still there.

It did take a while and a fair bit of reassurance from him that what he was doing was completely separate from me and our relationship. However... I did realise he had become quite sexually desensitised which he admitted he had too. 6 months on and our sex life is more passionate and loving than its been in years.

Hope that helps xxxx

Christine are you seeing a therapist or anything?

If you're struggling then take it slow... I've got my husband in another bed atm and low physical contact.

There's no rush to be intimate... It might take a very long time...

Thanks Lee..

I think Rainbow makes a good point too in that sex can become desensitised for some people sometimes and it can take something big to change that...

Don't rush Christine if you're not comfortable :)

Christine123 it's about trust... You have to trust that he's telling you the truth... That might come with changes in his behaviour or marriage counselling might be an option...

Well there are (in my opinion anyway) a few ideas:

- an open device policy where you can access his device to check what he's been doing. For me that about knowing that he's not been searching out things he hasn't if he says that he hasn't (it's a controversial option I've found but it works for us)

- There's counselling or the Inform course - has he sought an type of help for his actions? Is he growing and learning from his mistake or getting help for his addiction?

- His behaviour... Do you feel he is still lying? Is he walking around protesting against his investigation or is he owning up to it?