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Understanding what my partner has done

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Vickie

Member since
November 2020

428 posts

Posted Sat November 21, 2020 11:13amReport post

We got the knock on the 28th of October has been arrested for grooming,, on kik it was my partner talking to a undercover police office,, they have said the message are expected and sexual,, he has plended guilty, I have said him why and he said I would never acted on it,, its a big mistake and I do believe him my question is technically I know he has not access picture or spoken to a child can individual like my partner rebuild his life or could he go on to reofferd,,, cause I have two children 4 and 13 and I truly believe if he could of done something then he would of do,, I worked full time different shift and one 13hr a week so the opportunity for more was there does that make sense

Soz for the spelling and thanks again for the support

Vickie

Member since
November 2020

428 posts

Posted Sat November 21, 2020 12:13pmReport post

Hi Lee

Thank u I have ready many of the feeds and told him he needs to contact stop it now and do the course he has arrange he believes it will help,, hoping he will ring and I hopefully get some more answer x

Thank u again

Vickie

Member since
November 2020

428 posts

Posted Sat November 21, 2020 3:45pmReport post

Thank u Lee he has had a very loveless up bring really mom always wanted to be a friend not a mother,, he had lots of loss to,, his mom is very controlling and he borrow his sister up and had her all the time and when I would ask if he was coming to see me he would like I can't got to pick his mom up from work,, not that I am saying what he's do is the right,, I can start to she why he might of done what he done,, he told me he saw his step dad be abusive to his mom,, his step dad left the family home after his mom had his sister and both nearly died and she then 5 years ago take him back,, then my son has been very poorly to with epilepsy,, I think he has losed himself and then got into this conversation where did u post the podcast so I can have a listen Lee

Thank u for replying xxx

Vickie

Member since
November 2020

428 posts

Posted Sat November 21, 2020 4:20pmReport post

It makes so much sense and I just want to help him and give my kids there dad back and I understand people will not understand but I do love him and I said I would never give up on him,, so I have to try,, does that me bad I wish I could just have one of his cuddles

Thank u lee

Thinking getting clearer xxx

If I can help in anyway drop me a message x

Blackhound

Member since
October 2020

479 posts

Posted Sun November 29, 2020 12:03pmReport post

Vickie it does not make you s bad person in anyway shape or form. Each decision you make is your own and is not good or bad, it's just the right one for you.

You're not a bad person whatever you do in these circumstances x

Prinsess

Member since
February 2021

41 posts

Posted Sun February 14, 2021 11:32pmReport post

Hi all

my partner of 19 years is very sorry for all the hurt he as put on me our kids and he family but how do you learn to trust again am finding it really hard to believe he will not do it again since it as been such a big part off he's live for so long 20 years he says he didn't know we're to go for help and the knock come as a blessing for him I really need help with how to trust again and how yous lady's have learnt to forgive and trust



thanks in advance