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Just when I think my soon to be ex husband can't sink any lower he surprises me!!
I got a phone call from a close family member (his nephews wife who I'm really close to), anyway turns out hes telling people that although hes been arrested hes not guilty, it was my boys who are both adults and havent lived at home for at least 5 years. Apparently they used to come round at the weekend and download it!
Unfortunately my initial reaction was Tiger Mummy and i wanted to see him to tell him exactly what i thought, i was equally angry and upset at once!
The person that spoke to my niece said that they didn't blame me for it and still wanted to see me - sorry i didn't realise i had any blame and as none of them have made any effort since the knock i actually don't want anything to do with them!!
Then i get home to a letter from my solicitor about the divorce telling me because its such a complex case, because my husband says i don't deserve half our assets because we had a loveless marriage and i never supported him, all lies, i have got to have a barrister for our court appointment at the end of the month, £750 + vat for half a day or the bargain price of £1300 + vat if its a whole day!!
Happy new year to me, knowing my luck the divorce judge will make me give him money!!
Rant over and breathe
I got a phone call from a close family member (his nephews wife who I'm really close to), anyway turns out hes telling people that although hes been arrested hes not guilty, it was my boys who are both adults and havent lived at home for at least 5 years. Apparently they used to come round at the weekend and download it!
Unfortunately my initial reaction was Tiger Mummy and i wanted to see him to tell him exactly what i thought, i was equally angry and upset at once!
The person that spoke to my niece said that they didn't blame me for it and still wanted to see me - sorry i didn't realise i had any blame and as none of them have made any effort since the knock i actually don't want anything to do with them!!
Then i get home to a letter from my solicitor about the divorce telling me because its such a complex case, because my husband says i don't deserve half our assets because we had a loveless marriage and i never supported him, all lies, i have got to have a barrister for our court appointment at the end of the month, £750 + vat for half a day or the bargain price of £1300 + vat if its a whole day!!
Happy new year to me, knowing my luck the divorce judge will make me give him money!!
Rant over and breathe
Wow as if this situation isnt awful enough. Its very very sad that he is unable to accept responsibility for his actions, to try to blame innocent others is really low. I hope that your divorce hearing goes well, hopefully the barrister will be worth the money and get you what you deserve. Lies always catch up with people so hopefully the truth will come out in his trial.
That does sound low. I will need to initiate divorce proceedings. Especially as my job is working with children. I need to separate him from my life. Though have no idea how soon after the knock to do this at this point.
i agree lies tend to catch up with people. Hope it’s worth every penny. I had no idea that’s how expensive getting a divorce is for legal representation.
You have the moral high ground all the best.
we as women have to be strong it seems so unfair to have to fight when you are the innocent party. You may not feel it but you should be so proud of yourself what your doing takes great strength x
i agree lies tend to catch up with people. Hope it’s worth every penny. I had no idea that’s how expensive getting a divorce is for legal representation.
You have the moral high ground all the best.
we as women have to be strong it seems so unfair to have to fight when you are the innocent party. You may not feel it but you should be so proud of yourself what your doing takes great strength x
And absolutely blaming your boys makes me feel so angry for you how dare he. Please
Keep us updated! X
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The reason oou divorce is costing so much is because he doesn't want me to have what I'm entitled too!
So he's making me go to court and because of the reasons we're divorcing is deemed complex therefore in order for me to have to best possible chance of getting what I'm entitled to I have to pay for a barrister!
If your divorce is uncontested then it will cost you around £1500 in total. Mine so far has cost me well over £1000 plus the barrister fees, I have asked that he had to pay My costs but apparently it's very unusual to be awarded that!!
Thank you for all your lovely messages, I have now informed the police and am waiting to hear if I have to make a statement on this as well as my other one!!
Much love xx
So he's making me go to court and because of the reasons we're divorcing is deemed complex therefore in order for me to have to best possible chance of getting what I'm entitled to I have to pay for a barrister!
If your divorce is uncontested then it will cost you around £1500 in total. Mine so far has cost me well over £1000 plus the barrister fees, I have asked that he had to pay My costs but apparently it's very unusual to be awarded that!!
Thank you for all your lovely messages, I have now informed the police and am waiting to hear if I have to make a statement on this as well as my other one!!
Much love xx