Trust gone for good or not?
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im having trouble with trust will I be able to trust him again?
It’s been almost 4weeks since the knock and it’s all I can think about. I miss him he was my best friend as well as my partner. Deep down I don’t think I can ever live with him again as SS won’t make it easy and I’ll always worry he’ll do this or something similar again.
In the past he’s left me for his ex gf sister.
I found out he’d spoken to a stranger on line and had web cam interactions with her.
And now all this.
He’s been my rock while I went through job uncertainties and miscarriages but now when I look at him I see a small weak boy.
has the trust completely gone or can we work on it and build and regain it?
Thanks Rusty.
im having trouble with trust will I be able to trust him again?
It’s been almost 4weeks since the knock and it’s all I can think about. I miss him he was my best friend as well as my partner. Deep down I don’t think I can ever live with him again as SS won’t make it easy and I’ll always worry he’ll do this or something similar again.
In the past he’s left me for his ex gf sister.
I found out he’d spoken to a stranger on line and had web cam interactions with her.
And now all this.
He’s been my rock while I went through job uncertainties and miscarriages but now when I look at him I see a small weak boy.
has the trust completely gone or can we work on it and build and regain it?
Thanks Rusty.
Heya Rusty,
I always say trust takes time... It's really really difficult. I have a wealth of experience in this after my husband has broken my trust several times..
I was at the point the point several times, especially this week where I really considered a divorce... I thought there's no way back from this. I had a horrible level of disdain, heart broken, lack of trust. But I'm looking at his behaviours now and he's facing his demons. And I'm looking to the future person, that doesn't mean I erase the past. It means I focus on the potential to come.
You also have to ask yourself - if he has physically left you for another person and then come back to you after things have gone south - do you want him? Do you want to be his second choice?
I always say trust takes time... It's really really difficult. I have a wealth of experience in this after my husband has broken my trust several times..
I was at the point the point several times, especially this week where I really considered a divorce... I thought there's no way back from this. I had a horrible level of disdain, heart broken, lack of trust. But I'm looking at his behaviours now and he's facing his demons. And I'm looking to the future person, that doesn't mean I erase the past. It means I focus on the potential to come.
You also have to ask yourself - if he has physically left you for another person and then come back to you after things have gone south - do you want him? Do you want to be his second choice?
Oh Rusty, I'm so sorry you are being put through this. Our stories are the same but different, don't you remember mine is around my son. I can completely see why there are issues around trust. You have always been so lovely and supportive to me on here and if we were friends in real life I'd say to you that you deserve better xxx