Love life and risk assessment
Notifications OFF
My partner is having their risk assessment review with probation at the moment. He has half hour meetings about different topics. And today was about his relationships (with me, in the past etc).
I'm not shy about him sharing about our love life, since his sentence we have had to be open and honest since the police read our messages during checks and we know that his assessment has to be accurate.
But we are not a typical couple in the sense we are only intimate with each other, we are both bisexual and enjoy the swinging lifestyle. This came up alot in the latest meeting. My partner felt that the probation officer had misconceptions on what it means to be swingers. Each couple is different ofc but he had to explain and convince the officer that we are exclusive in the sense we meet with couples and singles together and it isn't a regular thing. It is not the main aspect of our love life.
So I just wanted to see if anyone has had issues of love life flag up in an assessment (doesn't have to be due to swinging). Is there potential he will be deemed a higher risk because we are not 'conventional'? I would be so annoyed if he is highly judged by this, especially if there is no evidence this has an impact on him reoffending. What we do is totally legal between consenting adults.
I'm not shy about him sharing about our love life, since his sentence we have had to be open and honest since the police read our messages during checks and we know that his assessment has to be accurate.
But we are not a typical couple in the sense we are only intimate with each other, we are both bisexual and enjoy the swinging lifestyle. This came up alot in the latest meeting. My partner felt that the probation officer had misconceptions on what it means to be swingers. Each couple is different ofc but he had to explain and convince the officer that we are exclusive in the sense we meet with couples and singles together and it isn't a regular thing. It is not the main aspect of our love life.
So I just wanted to see if anyone has had issues of love life flag up in an assessment (doesn't have to be due to swinging). Is there potential he will be deemed a higher risk because we are not 'conventional'? I would be so annoyed if he is highly judged by this, especially if there is no evidence this has an impact on him reoffending. What we do is totally legal between consenting adults.
Heya Majestic,
Whilst I don't have any experience with probation officers or anything yet, thinking about it logically... the only thing to be cautious of is if the couples you choose to swing with have children (obviously not in the room or anything but in general have children).. If the PO found that out then potentially it might put down as high risk...
Whilst it's not an illegal activity in the slightest, the PO could argue that the risk to reoffend is high because of this factor...
Whilst I don't have any experience with probation officers or anything yet, thinking about it logically... the only thing to be cautious of is if the couples you choose to swing with have children (obviously not in the room or anything but in general have children).. If the PO found that out then potentially it might put down as high risk...
Whilst it's not an illegal activity in the slightest, the PO could argue that the risk to reoffend is high because of this factor...
I can understand their concern for potential for being around children, but that would also imply that my partner can make no new Friends in any setting...
We make sure to separate the swinging from personal life and expect other couples to do the same. Yes we meet with people who have children but it is hard to mix with adults who dont have kids. We are a couple between our late 20s and late 30s.
I just hope the PO doesn't see swinging as deviant and that we are sex mad with no morals. We are very careful who interact with and don't hide the convos from the police during checks.
We make sure to separate the swinging from personal life and expect other couples to do the same. Yes we meet with people who have children but it is hard to mix with adults who dont have kids. We are a couple between our late 20s and late 30s.
I just hope the PO doesn't see swinging as deviant and that we are sex mad with no morals. We are very careful who interact with and don't hide the convos from the police during checks.
POs are people and are there to support offenders and because you've been open and honest it should go in your favour...
Goodluck to you both Majestic
Goodluck to you both Majestic