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Al24

Member since
May 2020

33 posts

Posted Tue November 24, 2020 12:57pmReport post

So 7 months down the line, and my children may be finally allowed supervised contact with their father. I'm having a meeting later this week concerning it, but it seems like i won't be the one able to supervise and that one of my family members could. I don't feel comfortable asking any from my family as they have not seen him since the incident and don't think fair to put them in that position. Do you think ss will accept someone from his family?

Annie1969

Member since
November 2020

224 posts

Posted Tue November 24, 2020 2:35pmReport post

Hi

have you been told why you might not be able to supervise contact?

im guessing an assessment would have to take place before anyone can supervise.

My SW needs to complete some work with me before she will allow contact in the home , at present she is allowing me to supervise contact in the community

x

majestictopaz15

Member since
December 2019

371 posts

Posted Tue November 24, 2020 2:55pmReport post

We haven't got that far yet since his ex wife won't allow him any access so we are going through family court. But my partner has mentioned that he will hope in the future have his parents and sister allowed to be supervisers. No concerns have been raised for this from his PO. Whoever seeks permission from SS would need to go through their checks. It would make more sense I think to have a family member of his if your family are not civil with him.

Not sure how strict they are for the assessments and what they involve but maybe need a few back ups just in case some don't meet the SS criteria for whatever reason. Tho hopefully you will be given some sort of allowance to supervise, even if it is in public at first. Worst case is the use of visitation centres with a trained person

Al24

Member since
May 2020

33 posts

Posted Tue November 24, 2020 4:49pmReport post

Thank you for your replies. I believe I'm due a risk assessment. They were all for closing my case but then my children's files were in an audit by the directors, which has pulled up things they clearly shoukd have done ages ago! It's so stressful.

Concerned

Member since
November 2020

62 posts

Posted Tue November 24, 2020 6:56pmReport post

Can I ask why contact wasn't allowed in the first place?



My ex was arrested about 5 weeks ago now and SS have put a plan for supervised contact straight in and it's twice a week supervised telephone

Annie1969

Member since
November 2020

224 posts

Posted Tue November 24, 2020 10:02pmReport post

My first assessment was awful..SW asked me some incredibly personal questions..questions that I felt were irrelevant to the assessment..

each case is different as is each SW.

then they want to work with your child/children and then partner has to be assessed and if you want a family member to supervise while they're assessing you, then family members/ member has to be assessed aswell.

to say it's stressful is an understatement

xx

Mama bear

Member since
December 2019

6 posts

Posted Wed January 20, 2021 1:55pmReport post

My social worker was very keen on one of my parents supervising contact, but agreed to the girls going to their dad's parents house for 2 nights every fortnight so he could visit there during the day times only as I don't think it would have been healthy for anyone for him to be supervised by my parents. They did have an established routine of going to either their dads or his parents house every weekend though.