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How do I decide

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November 2020

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Posted Sat November 28, 2020 10:02amReport post

Yesterday was door knock day. After 7am, still half asleep, disrupted from making lunches. What followed was up there as one of the worst 5.5 hours of my life.

the CID officers sat us down and explained my partner had been suspected of accessing images, over a specified period in the past.


we are a relatively new couple, but as he has been living with me - lock down speeeded up the process- they had a warrant to search my house, and examine all my electronic equipment, as well as searching his and his own home.


i dont even know how to explain what i was feeing- numb mostly, petrified about my job and the implications of this on me.

my partner was just quiet/ pale/ relatively relaxed.


luckily they were able to search all the equipment in situ, and they were all clean. SOCOs came and took photos, cyber tech officers crammed in, and every bit of my privacy was invaded. But im not even bothered about all that, about basically being under house arrest and feeling dirty somehow for being in any way associated with it... the main problem i have is they didnt find anything. And i realise that must be a horrible thing for those of u who have had to deal with them finding stuff, but what now? My life was turned upside down. And i dont know why. Nothing was found, but they made it very clear that they got a warrant because it was serious enough, with enough basis for a judge to sign it off. They basically said its not been that long a relationship, get him out (obviously not in so many words).


i have no idea on what the 'intelligence' was that led them to go to such exteme lengths- as i say it was a full on and very thorough process with lots of resources- surely it must've been something really bad.... but as my partner says how can he disprove it when he doesnt know what it was- one officer was calming and said at the beginning neither of us have done anything wrong at this point and if they find nothing on his stuff, thats the end of it. But the other officer made it seem that although they couldnt prove anything, he had still done something bad enough to warrant all this... they left me with the Still Reeling booklet so its like theres no doubt that he has committed the offence they just cant prove it, but theres no evidence and he totally denies having done anything or having any inclinations... i genuinely dont know what to do or not, without making a horrible mistake either way.

I should point out, although he havent been together for years and years, we have been very happy, in love, and talking about future plans like having kids prior to this.

Edited Sat November 28, 2020 12:38pm