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Hiswife2010

Member since
November 2019

3 posts

Posted Sat November 28, 2020 10:26pmReport post

A year ago I realised my husband had had an inappropriate conversation with my friends child. I called the police and I left him. I did however go back to him, I was also pregnant with our son. Now he has just found out they are taking things further and he has pleaded guilty we are just waiting for his conviction, my idiot husband has been on the register before for possession of images when he was 17. But yesterday child services appeared at the door and have told me that we are being taken down the child protection route for our son. Im absolutely terrified and I have no idea what this would entail does anyone know what this even means or what kind of rules they could put in place?

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1006 posts

Posted Sun November 29, 2020 12:13pmReport post

Hi,

I'm sorry that you find yourself in this position. Everyone on here has different experiences with social services. I was fortunate to have a lovely social worker. I chose to separate from my partner and when he is out of prison (in remand at present) he will return to his parents house. My older children aren't his and will have no contact with him, they have chosen this and I fully support their decision. I now have a child protection plan in place for our unborn baby, again this may make things easier as time goes on because baby won't know any different. Sw was happy that I'm a protective factor and I have made the decision for my ex to have supervised contact in my home with his parents present initially and then if I'm comfortable with the way they interact with baby it can then be changed to supervised contact at his parents house. I would advise you to utilise any support that they can offer to you. I feel I was so worried about their involvement that I didn't get all of the support I could have. Make notes of things that you would like to ask between meetings and calls. You can also make notes throughout any contact with them. I hope that this helps xxx