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Struggling big time today. I've just moved into a new house my ex has been staying with me as we're trying to work things out but I'm struggling today, some days are harder than others... today is his nieces 6th birthday who adored him, he's not saw her in over a year and obviously can't see her today. I have to go and give her her presents alone, I'm so angry and upset today and we have argued. I've told him he was selfish and look how many things he's ruined etc. the truth is I don't even know if he cares. I can't even look at him never mind speak to him and I feel myself being cruel to him but it's so so difficult I don't know how to stop feeling so angry
Hi Christine.
I know how you feel. It's times which should be special and celebrated that the realisation of what's happened comes flooding back and you can no longer do it and its only natural to feel anger towards him, especially if he is not looking bothered either.
Iv twoed and frowed the idea of staying and leaving and I think we are similar we don't have kids but want them soon? I asked myself some difficult questions and things like celebrating young ones birthdays ie my nieces and nephews I wasn't prepared to miss. I was fortunate a claires law disclosure gave me information which helped me make my decision easier to make and to move on.
I commend those who have stayed as the partner has to sacrifice so much emotionally. Make sure you are taking care of you.
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I know how you feel. It's times which should be special and celebrated that the realisation of what's happened comes flooding back and you can no longer do it and its only natural to feel anger towards him, especially if he is not looking bothered either.
Iv twoed and frowed the idea of staying and leaving and I think we are similar we don't have kids but want them soon? I asked myself some difficult questions and things like celebrating young ones birthdays ie my nieces and nephews I wasn't prepared to miss. I was fortunate a claires law disclosure gave me information which helped me make my decision easier to make and to move on.
I commend those who have stayed as the partner has to sacrifice so much emotionally. Make sure you are taking care of you.
X
Thank you yes we're in a similar position it's so difficult
Also it sounds like there's children next door to my house I've not saw them but there's toys in garden and I hear them playing will this be a problem?
I'm not too sure on that I'm afraid. In my ex partners case he was allowed no unsupervised access to his daughter or any children under the age of 18. He was told that when he was charged so your partner (sorry can't recall if he's been charged or not) if he has this should be stipulated in his bail conditions x
They're just neibours grandchildren next door
Yeah he won't be near any children it's just I worried about not being allowed to live next to children or something as you hear about these people not living near a school etc
I'm 0.2 miles like across a big park from the school.. will this get us in trouble
I'm not sure what his charges are.. will he be ok to stay here now?
His bail stated no contact with children etc but he's not had any so he's all good there I just wondered about my new house... he's going to find out what his exact charges are