Having a mixed day
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So today my husband phoned me and I broke down crying I miss him so much I feel half the person I was,, he was very comforting and asked me to talk to him about my feelings which I do find hard,, he opened up about this conversation he's had and he said it makes him feel sick what he has said.
I think things where going ok his mother spoke to him the other day and his sister which for me was a really big turning point because they said they wanted nothing to do with him,,
But then yesterday was his step dad's birthday and he left a voicemail for him on my phone,, his dad got very upset which I understand but then start saying I can't understand by he does not want bail and he cant want to see his kids over Christmas,,,
I tried to explain that it not he does not want to,, but more he can't till ss have all the facts and done their assessment and I then said I had spoken to the police and solicitor and asked if he could talk to our daughter on the phone and they both said yes as long as it supportive and I said of course she only 4,,,
This will make her Christmas I just now worried about other family members turning against me once they no I am talking to him,,
Rant over emotions calmed down xxx
I think things where going ok his mother spoke to him the other day and his sister which for me was a really big turning point because they said they wanted nothing to do with him,,
But then yesterday was his step dad's birthday and he left a voicemail for him on my phone,, his dad got very upset which I understand but then start saying I can't understand by he does not want bail and he cant want to see his kids over Christmas,,,
I tried to explain that it not he does not want to,, but more he can't till ss have all the facts and done their assessment and I then said I had spoken to the police and solicitor and asked if he could talk to our daughter on the phone and they both said yes as long as it supportive and I said of course she only 4,,,
This will make her Christmas I just now worried about other family members turning against me once they no I am talking to him,,
Rant over emotions calmed down xxx
Sweetheart, stop trying to please everyone, you will never do it. My son is in the same position as your husband. I hate what he has put his girlfriend through. But she loves him so much. He has never hurt her. He is awaiting sentence for viewing indecent images. We are all devastated, but I will stand by his girlfriend and my grandchild no matter what she decides xx
Catlady
This is one of my biggest problems is I try to please everyone all the time and I tired explaing that In one way I can see how people can end up doing things when they have mental health not taking his medication and drinking a lot that's not me saying its right but I understand that everything that's gone on could lead to what he has done,, then people talking about him like he's sh#t and how could a dad do this,, well he is a great dad and husband I love him so much its unreal,, then people saying I should just stop loving him and move on but how we been together 10 years and we have a 4 year old that loves him it's messages and he getting help,, he said he knows it was wrong and wishes he never did it,, he said he feels he has failed both of our kids and his family but he is trying I just wish people would listen xxx
Thank u for ur support
This is one of my biggest problems is I try to please everyone all the time and I tired explaing that In one way I can see how people can end up doing things when they have mental health not taking his medication and drinking a lot that's not me saying its right but I understand that everything that's gone on could lead to what he has done,, then people talking about him like he's sh#t and how could a dad do this,, well he is a great dad and husband I love him so much its unreal,, then people saying I should just stop loving him and move on but how we been together 10 years and we have a 4 year old that loves him it's messages and he getting help,, he said he knows it was wrong and wishes he never did it,, he said he feels he has failed both of our kids and his family but he is trying I just wish people would listen xxx
Thank u for ur support
Vicky, I Don't get the messages on here, so didn't know you replied ???????? so sorry. I understand where you are. Our family is separated at the moment. We are treading around family members who are willing to understand and those who won't. Keep your heart close and your head held high. If you love him, support him, but keep your child safe. If he loves you, he will want to put you both first. Follow your social services criteria, its so hard but your only option. You and your children come first, no matter what xx