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You couldn't make it up!!

If it what has happened to me was on the likes of

EastEnders, they would say what a load of rubbish that doesn't happen. To cut a long story short. 3 yrs ago my ex-husband was sentenced for images & talking to a lady who offered her child.

Almost 3 yrs to the day my now ex-partner has been arrested for talking to an underage person. Both chats were undercover operations.

As you can imagine my head is in a right mess. This kind of help wasn't around the first time.

Not sure what I'm trying to find here some splice perhaps!!

Tracey

These are 2 separate men. I'm angry at the 2nd cos he knew about my ex-husband , I met him just before the court hearing & felt I had to tell him as I was going to be a witness against the ex-husband if he pleaded not guilty , which was right up to day in court.

I have every emotion going through me atm.

Hi Andrea

Thank you. I do thankfully, I have 2 really good friends who saw me through it the first time.

I did scare them big time though this time as I couldn't get my head round it. I'm now seeing a psychologist & been in touch with a group in my area that specialises in sexual abuse. I'm now on waiting list for councilling.

But this is good as there is others in your position & know how your feeling.

Some posts I've seen have been helpful.

Tracey,- No I didn't give evidence as he pleaded guilty at magistrate court & then went straight to crown court for sentencing.



ATM I haven't come to terms with it. The 2nd time was only 4 weeks ago when I had "the knock" . They took him away , left me alone, no support. I phoned a friend who took me in & I left him a note saying I want you & all your stuff gone when I get back in a few days.



Stupidly 2 weeks later. I took an overdose as I saw myself as " the common denominator" Luckily me friend found me 2 days later on new years day. I know now I am not & I'm angry with myself for letting them drag me down into thinking that. I take a day at a time sometimes it's hour by hour. I've got the police to stop him contacting me as it was really upsetting me what he was messaging.

Reading through some posts has helped to know I'm not alone.

Also Tracey, he was in denial right up til court & still is today.

I had help with a group which prepared me for court & councelled me upto it. Different police forces act differently. I'm in a different area to the first incident & have had no support as I'm not involved. Not even any advice where to get help. He was giving the Lucy Faithful website, which he told me about & then I googled it.

When I'm feeling stronger I will write to the police force to look into this to help other family's need help too.