Having another baby after time on register ends
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Hi everyone I have found such support reading this forum realising I wasn't alone. This is my first post and I have been nervous about asking questions.
I'm hoping someone can offer some advice. My partner was found guilty of a sexual offence nearly 3 years ago. He is due to come off the register in 8 months . We have a child and at first social services were involved but closed the case after a year. If we were to have another baby once he is off the register does anyone know what might happen? I would appreciate any advice as theres often no information about life after someone comes off the register. His criminal justice worker and police dont seem to think there will be an issue but I'm so scared as I'm still very traumatised with their involvement at the start.
Thanks
I'm hoping someone can offer some advice. My partner was found guilty of a sexual offence nearly 3 years ago. He is due to come off the register in 8 months . We have a child and at first social services were involved but closed the case after a year. If we were to have another baby once he is off the register does anyone know what might happen? I would appreciate any advice as theres often no information about life after someone comes off the register. His criminal justice worker and police dont seem to think there will be an issue but I'm so scared as I'm still very traumatised with their involvement at the start.
Thanks
Hello Larabelle
Thank you for your post, I am happy that you have found support from reading through the forum. We have noticed that you have not received any replies to your post and although hopefully you will receive support from other forum users we thought it may be helpful to give you some advice in the meantime. Firstly, I want to say well done for reaching out. It can be difficult to ask questions and I am pleased you felt able to do so.
In regards to future Children’s Services’ involvement, your partner coming off the sex offenders register does mean that procedures change, in that the police will not automatically inform Children’s Services of your situation. Nevertheless, it is advisable to be as transparent as possible, and so people often consider it sensible to inform Children’s Services themselves. You may wish to do this, perhaps by contacting the team or social worker previously involved. This demonstrates that you are continuing to be a protective parent, as you have clearly been with your first child, and are willing to work collaboratively with Children’s Services to ensure child safety. If you were to inform Children’s Services this does not mean they would necessarily become involved, however there is a possibility the disclosure would prompt a review of your situation. Informing them of a pregnancy may also help manage any anxious feelings or worry you are experiencing regarding if they will or will not become involved in the future. It might help you to feel more in control of the situation.
I hope this information has been helpful, and if you wish to discuss this concern any further then I encourage you to call our anonymous and confidential helpline for further support.
Take care,
Lucy
Thank you for your post, I am happy that you have found support from reading through the forum. We have noticed that you have not received any replies to your post and although hopefully you will receive support from other forum users we thought it may be helpful to give you some advice in the meantime. Firstly, I want to say well done for reaching out. It can be difficult to ask questions and I am pleased you felt able to do so.
In regards to future Children’s Services’ involvement, your partner coming off the sex offenders register does mean that procedures change, in that the police will not automatically inform Children’s Services of your situation. Nevertheless, it is advisable to be as transparent as possible, and so people often consider it sensible to inform Children’s Services themselves. You may wish to do this, perhaps by contacting the team or social worker previously involved. This demonstrates that you are continuing to be a protective parent, as you have clearly been with your first child, and are willing to work collaboratively with Children’s Services to ensure child safety. If you were to inform Children’s Services this does not mean they would necessarily become involved, however there is a possibility the disclosure would prompt a review of your situation. Informing them of a pregnancy may also help manage any anxious feelings or worry you are experiencing regarding if they will or will not become involved in the future. It might help you to feel more in control of the situation.
I hope this information has been helpful, and if you wish to discuss this concern any further then I encourage you to call our anonymous and confidential helpline for further support.
Take care,
Lucy