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I have ended things with my ex. I'm struggling today I've spent all day in bed crying. It's killing me seeing all these couples getting engaged his sister included today and it's so so hurtful. Knowing that I once had that and it was taken away. I'll never have that again. I tried to commit suicide in October and I'm feeling pretty low again I guess im reaching out for help as I have no one
I don't know how to cope I can't stop crying I'm so upset I can't eat I feel sick I'm heartbroken this has been a year and a half when does this stop
So sorry Christine. I'm feeling very upset too. It's a tough day. Take care. xx
If you are feeling suicidal Christine please phone the Samaritans...x
I'm dreading new year also I'm not sure I'll make it through
Hi Christine
I am so proud of you for making the decision to leave. I know it doesn't seem like there will be any life without him now, but trust me there will be. The hardest thing was finding the courage to follow your decision through and you did it that's amazing! It's took real strength believe that. The best thing to do is to come away from social media all together. It's all fine and dandy there and I know only too well seeing everyone getting pregnant (I have fertility issues) I would find myself spiralling into a deep sadness and jealousy. Instead find yourself something to do which you enjoy to keep busy. Lots of self care right now. Try and eat something even if it's something small. It will help your immune system with the stress levels.
I also agree to phone the samaritans for some guidance they are amazing and will help you. I wish I could give you the biggest hug. You've been to hell and back, you've tried your best you really have. You don't deserve to feel like this.
You've took a massive step today and your allowed to feel the sadness. This will help you to eventually heal. Cry it all out.
Your going to move on from this in your own time, stronger, and build your own life and when the time is right you will go on to meet someone who deserves you and won't put you in this horrendous position. Iv read all your posts and you've been through so much.
God bless you sweetheart. Sending you the biggest love. Let us know your safe and well. I'll be thinking of you.
Yaz xx
I am so proud of you for making the decision to leave. I know it doesn't seem like there will be any life without him now, but trust me there will be. The hardest thing was finding the courage to follow your decision through and you did it that's amazing! It's took real strength believe that. The best thing to do is to come away from social media all together. It's all fine and dandy there and I know only too well seeing everyone getting pregnant (I have fertility issues) I would find myself spiralling into a deep sadness and jealousy. Instead find yourself something to do which you enjoy to keep busy. Lots of self care right now. Try and eat something even if it's something small. It will help your immune system with the stress levels.
I also agree to phone the samaritans for some guidance they are amazing and will help you. I wish I could give you the biggest hug. You've been to hell and back, you've tried your best you really have. You don't deserve to feel like this.
You've took a massive step today and your allowed to feel the sadness. This will help you to eventually heal. Cry it all out.
Your going to move on from this in your own time, stronger, and build your own life and when the time is right you will go on to meet someone who deserves you and won't put you in this horrendous position. Iv read all your posts and you've been through so much.
God bless you sweetheart. Sending you the biggest love. Let us know your safe and well. I'll be thinking of you.
Yaz xx
Hi Christine
I know you don't think so now but I promise you things will get better. My son is the offender. He had a conversation with an underage girl and was sent to prison which is where he still is. When he first went to prison I felt the exact way you do. I honestly did not think I would make it and nearly didnt on two occasions. I'm glad I did make it as we have not got long to go now until our son will be home.
What you are going through takes time to process, understand and accept. You have made a decision that you feel is right for you which is the right thing to do. Sadly, it does not make things better overnight the moment you make that decision. It just all takes time.
I urge you to make contact with the Samaritans or helpline or even one of the groups we have set up. All three can provide support and understanding for you. Don't try and go through this journey alone as it's all to much without support of some sort. I know this because I tried to do just that.
please keep posting on here for support but more importantly call the Samaritans. They are open all year round twenty four hours a day. Take care x
I know you don't think so now but I promise you things will get better. My son is the offender. He had a conversation with an underage girl and was sent to prison which is where he still is. When he first went to prison I felt the exact way you do. I honestly did not think I would make it and nearly didnt on two occasions. I'm glad I did make it as we have not got long to go now until our son will be home.
What you are going through takes time to process, understand and accept. You have made a decision that you feel is right for you which is the right thing to do. Sadly, it does not make things better overnight the moment you make that decision. It just all takes time.
I urge you to make contact with the Samaritans or helpline or even one of the groups we have set up. All three can provide support and understanding for you. Don't try and go through this journey alone as it's all to much without support of some sort. I know this because I tried to do just that.
please keep posting on here for support but more importantly call the Samaritans. They are open all year round twenty four hours a day. Take care x
Thanks folks I appreciate all your replies. I feel so guilty feeling jealous over his sister getting engaged I know it's not healthy but it's hurting me so so so much that was me and now that happiness is gone. I'm guilty of pushing things back and not dealing with them or refusing help. I've deactivated my Facebook as I can't cope seeing all these engagements. I had a rough childhood and my own father abused children. I feel I'm following in my mother's footsteps and all I want more than anything is a normal life get married and have babies but unfortunately I doubt that will happen
It's a natural emotion to feel jealous. Your human. Your grieving what you once had. Rude this out. It will pass. That's an amazing step you have taken deactivating Facebook for a While. Just if you can surround yourself with people who care about you. You are not your mother. You are you. You have done a massive thing by choosing to walk away from a traumatic situation that in itself is the start of a new chapter in your life. You've closed the old one. Turn the page and make it a good one. Best of luck x x x
Ride not rude sorry one too many brandys tonight.
Ps none of us know what's around the corner, babies, marriage, lottery win, good luck, bad luck. All I know is iv got this far and iv survived nothing else seems impossible. You'll get there I promise. Its been 6 weeks since I left. While I have days I feel sad and miss my old life with him I think back to the day I had the knock and the hurt and lies that went with it and I soon felt better I am no longer apart of that. Iv reconnected with friends and family. Life seems like it might just be okay. We just have to believe better days are coming and we deserve better xxx
Ps none of us know what's around the corner, babies, marriage, lottery win, good luck, bad luck. All I know is iv got this far and iv survived nothing else seems impossible. You'll get there I promise. Its been 6 weeks since I left. While I have days I feel sad and miss my old life with him I think back to the day I had the knock and the hurt and lies that went with it and I soon felt better I am no longer apart of that. Iv reconnected with friends and family. Life seems like it might just be okay. We just have to believe better days are coming and we deserve better xxx
I don't have much support in my real life. Thanks for all your replies yaz you help me so much I really appreciate it! Wish I could talk to you every time I get low
I don't have much support in my real life. Thanks for all your replies yaz you help me so much I really appreciate it! Wish I could talk to you every time I get low
That makes me sad you don't have much support. I check on here most days so Ill always be around to help if I can.
Would you try councilling? That's something I'm doing it's really good talking to someone you don't know. I do it over the phone. I pour out to her and I feel everyone I do a bit more of me feels better. I self refered online to my gp and I didn't wait very long. It may help.
You are stronger than you realise chick. Take each day as it comes, don't think about next week. Next month. Just the day we are in. Small steps. Try and eat even if it's just soup. It will help fuel you. Tomorrow is a new day. Do something nice for you. Eat something you love. Paint your nails. Reach out to someone you know. Or us on here.
Each day that you get up is a blessing. A fresh start. Your a good person. Your healing. Your a strong woman who is going on to better things in her life. Xxx
Would you try councilling? That's something I'm doing it's really good talking to someone you don't know. I do it over the phone. I pour out to her and I feel everyone I do a bit more of me feels better. I self refered online to my gp and I didn't wait very long. It may help.
You are stronger than you realise chick. Take each day as it comes, don't think about next week. Next month. Just the day we are in. Small steps. Try and eat even if it's just soup. It will help fuel you. Tomorrow is a new day. Do something nice for you. Eat something you love. Paint your nails. Reach out to someone you know. Or us on here.
Each day that you get up is a blessing. A fresh start. Your a good person. Your healing. Your a strong woman who is going on to better things in her life. Xxx
I'm pathetic even seeing his mum commenting on her post congratulations etc hurts a lot. My gp doesn't have a counseling service I was meant to start seeing the mental health nurse but he went off sick and I can't afford to do it privately so ive just been tryin to get on with it
Have a look at NHS talking therapies that's what I went through you can self refer online. I couldn't afford the private either. Your not pathetic your in a difficult situation. Stop talking bad about yourself. None of us are pathetic we are doing our best to move forward from their mistake!!!! Don't punish yourself for something he did lovely your a young girl who has her whole life ahead. This is just a blip in the road. We will come out the other side stronger and better people. After this nothing will ever seem as bad. Today's a new day. Make it a good one xxx
Hi Christine,
Just wanted to mention that Lucy faithful can arrange free counselling through Stop So. I had 12 free session with a trained therapist. It helped me so much. My therapist was in Portsmouth and I’m in the north, but we did our sessions over the phone .
I know people have said this already, but it’s true: it really does start to get easier. There is a future for you. Just hold on. Xxx
Just wanted to mention that Lucy faithful can arrange free counselling through Stop So. I had 12 free session with a trained therapist. It helped me so much. My therapist was in Portsmouth and I’m in the north, but we did our sessions over the phone .
I know people have said this already, but it’s true: it really does start to get easier. There is a future for you. Just hold on. Xxx
The nhs website can't find my GP I'll try stop so
How are you Christine? Been thinking of you xx
Christine, I havent been on in a couple of weeks and have only just seen your post. Please dont feel alone, there are so many amazing women on here who will know what you are going through and can offer you so much support.
I have been taking life a day at a time and that is what I would suggest to anyone going through this. It's not our fault we are a part of the club noone wants to be in. Social services havent offered much in the way of support and i have found all the best advice on here.
I hope that you start to feel less alone, this year will hopefully see services become more accessible again. We are survivors... we carry on because we have no choice but to.
Please take care xxxxxx
I have been taking life a day at a time and that is what I would suggest to anyone going through this. It's not our fault we are a part of the club noone wants to be in. Social services havent offered much in the way of support and i have found all the best advice on here.
I hope that you start to feel less alone, this year will hopefully see services become more accessible again. We are survivors... we carry on because we have no choice but to.
Please take care xxxxxx
Hello Christine123, I have read through your posts and I am really glad to see that you have received some positive support from the women that use this forum, that is exactly what this forum is for – peer support.
However, I can see that you are particularly struggling at the moment and I wanted to suggest to you that you give our helpline a call if you haven’t already on 0808 1000 900. This helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to call from a landline. One of our trained operators will be able to discuss with you in detail the things you are going through and emotional distress you may be suffering. The Helpline service runs on Monday to Thursdays from 9am to 9pm and Fridays from 9am to 5pm.
I would also suggest that you go to your GP who will be able to advise you on where to get support in your local area for your current situation and can provide you with medication if that is appropriate. These are very difficult times for you but seeking help from as many resources as possible may help you through this time.
I would also like to suggest that if at any point you feel that you are unsafe, in terms of hurting yourself I strongly suggest that you take yourself to A and E, call 999 or 111.
It may also be beneficial for you to call the Samaritans on 116 123 when you are feeling particularly overwhelmed and distressed as they are well trained to support people in a time of crisis.
I hope that this has been helpline and that you feel comfortable to call our helpline for some additional support.
Best wishes,
Lucy
However, I can see that you are particularly struggling at the moment and I wanted to suggest to you that you give our helpline a call if you haven’t already on 0808 1000 900. This helpline is anonymous, confidential and free to call from a landline. One of our trained operators will be able to discuss with you in detail the things you are going through and emotional distress you may be suffering. The Helpline service runs on Monday to Thursdays from 9am to 9pm and Fridays from 9am to 5pm.
I would also suggest that you go to your GP who will be able to advise you on where to get support in your local area for your current situation and can provide you with medication if that is appropriate. These are very difficult times for you but seeking help from as many resources as possible may help you through this time.
I would also like to suggest that if at any point you feel that you are unsafe, in terms of hurting yourself I strongly suggest that you take yourself to A and E, call 999 or 111.
It may also be beneficial for you to call the Samaritans on 116 123 when you are feeling particularly overwhelmed and distressed as they are well trained to support people in a time of crisis.
I hope that this has been helpline and that you feel comfortable to call our helpline for some additional support.
Best wishes,
Lucy
Christine, you have been in my mind a lot. I do hope you are ok? xx