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me and my daughters met our third sw today and she's completely different to the last two. She never judged me, she even said she respected me for supporting my husband which I really appreciated. Our first meeting is in a weeks time and then 6 weekly after that. The only thing which frustrates me is that social services keep saying my husband has done nothing to show he's trying to better himself. He asked and asked to go on a course in prison but they said there was nothing suitable. But he did a self esteem course where you had to look st your personality and stuff, he did a business course and ran a mental health workshop for the wing, a barbering course, health and safety. The sw said that until he starts his SO course he can't be considered for supervised contact but we have no idea when he will start the course. I was wondering if I could find out who runs the courses to find out when he may get a place, do you think they would tell me? If there's a big waiting list it could be months as it's an 8 month course. I thought about us saving money for him to do the Lucy faithful course but he said he would still have to do the SO as it's on his sentence plan. So now despite the meetings starting soon there's nothing new going to come up until he gets a start date.
also the meeting is likely to be at the girls school which I'm uncomfortable with but she said it's either at school if there's a room or her office. I'm nervous about the school knowing incase they think I should have told them earlier.
also the meeting is likely to be at the girls school which I'm uncomfortable with but she said it's either at school if there's a room or her office. I'm nervous about the school knowing incase they think I should have told them earlier.
Im glad your new social worker is nice, hopefully you will be able to make some progress and feel happier with this one. I agree about meetings at school its difficult. I made the decision to tell school what was happening and so far they have been great. I like to have control of whats going on and how people are told, so i wanted school to know from me not from social services. If you are able to and you feel ready to make an appointment to see the headteacher you dont need to tell anyone what its about and the headteacher must keep everything confidential, go and tell them in your words whats happening (they may be able to help). My issue with the meeting at school is the potential for gossips in the school office but im hoping that wont happen. I dont think it matters that you havent told them already at school, you can explain to them the reasons why and that now your partner is working towards access to see the kids you now need their help and input. I think maybe he needs to be doing the hard work like finding out who runs the course, how long the waiting list will be. Has he called lucy faithful foundation and safer living foundation to see if they have that information or know of other courses he could do (that might be more affordable), if he did it due to any kind of porn addiction has he joined something like sex addicts annymous or looked for a therapist that could help. Its great he did all those courses in prison, sounds like he made real effort to improve himself. Such a shame he wasnt able to do the course he needs while was in prison. Has he applied to do the course? Does he know who runs it, could his probation officer help/ or policer officer who deals with him?. I would imagine social services want that he is commited to change and making all the effort, not you doing any of it for him. I hope he manages to find out more about the course and gets a date to start it soon.
Sounds positive Lottie!
SS were the most difficult part. They are worried about getting it wrong and you feel like the parcel in pass the parcel.. one that does not quite measure up!
I I found having a folder with all particular of the case, meeting notes, etc helpful.
It helps demonstrate all the steps that both you and your husband has been taking. As a previous poster said, be specific about what you are asking for and provide reasons.
FFingers crossed it will lead to a good working relationship and help you all.
SS were the most difficult part. They are worried about getting it wrong and you feel like the parcel in pass the parcel.. one that does not quite measure up!
I I found having a folder with all particular of the case, meeting notes, etc helpful.
It helps demonstrate all the steps that both you and your husband has been taking. As a previous poster said, be specific about what you are asking for and provide reasons.
FFingers crossed it will lead to a good working relationship and help you all.
I am at the front end of SS involvement and it is erratic, to say the least! I am keeping contemporaneous notes of every interaction I have had so far. The Family Rights Group are good for information too.