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KellyT123*

Member since
December 2019

12 posts

Posted Mon January 25, 2021 5:46pmReport post

Hi All,

Just wondering if anyone has been asked by their partner to write a letter which will be given to the Judge at Crown.

Purpose of letter is to show who the ruling would effect - in my case myself and son financially.

Was advised to explain how this situation has upset me and put me, my family and friend under alot of stress.

I feel this is a little bit manipulative, and honestly i want my husband to pay for what he has done.

Any advice?

majestictopaz15

Member since
December 2019

371 posts

Posted Mon January 25, 2021 9:12pmReport post

I did a character reference for my partner. My main focus was to emphasize how he was proactive in his rehabilitation and he is very remorseful. I have seen some people also explain the impact it would have if they got custodial e.g. carer role. It is up to you if you want to provide a statement. You can ask to share with the solicitor for the judge to only see if you are worried about your partner looking.

I can't say if the letter helped my partner's case. The letter isn't for saying what you think the charge should be, but give some background that the judge may not already know

Simple

Member since
November 2020

23 posts

Posted Mon January 25, 2021 10:34pmReport post

Hi, I have just completed a character reference for my husband we have separated. I chose to do the character reference because I know he is a good person, even though our relationship is over he still remains to be the Father of my 2 little boys.



I did have to really think about it and whether I felt it appropriate to write a character reference. There were specific bullet points so I could go off on a tangent.

there is no right or wrong answer, I just did what I thought was right by my family and was honest to myself! In these situations that is all we can do xx

KellyT123*

Member since
December 2019

12 posts

Posted Tue January 26, 2021 3:07pmReport post

Thanks for all your responses.

I am no longer with my husband. We have seperated, and live in different homes, but he still has supervised visits with our son.

I thought my husband was a good man who made a mistake, and had a porn addiction and i was going to write a letter, but have just found out he is using adult sites once again.

Guess a leopard never changes his spots right?

Edited Tue January 26, 2021 3:07pm

Fatso

Member since
November 2019

103 posts

Posted Tue January 26, 2021 3:51pmReport post

Sorry to be negitive but my son had half a dozen character references and also a letter from his GP and his than counseller as well as a letter from his wife saying that he was the only working and what impact it would have on their 2 year old son, but the judge toook no notice of this and still sentenced him.

KellyT123*

Member since
December 2019

12 posts

Posted Tue January 26, 2021 9:14pmReport post

Thanks All,

Your help and advice is greatly appreciated.

I really didnt think the letter would sway the judge in any way - my husband is guilty of an unspeakable crime, and yes, he is selfish and has no respect for me or my son, otherwise he would not have dragged us into this.

i am not going to do a letter and will tell him when he visits at the weekend.