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Hi to all

I think I have to agree with lee. My son was more communication than images as he only had a handful of the girl he had been talking to so before this forum I knew very little about why men might download indecent images. I must admit, before all this, I thought like most of society, that men who downloaded them were scum who were interested sexually in children. I now know that's not the case. I now know that most men who look at images have some sort of trauma from years ago or some kind of addiction that gets out of control to satisfy the addiction. I think like Lee, if they were to take you on a journey of a man from knock to sentence that gave the full picture of the possible reason the man did what he did it would be much better. Whether it's images or communication, the public needs to be educated on it. That said, there are a small number of men who are caught who are just bad apples are are paedophiles and for those men they deserve all they get but the public have no idea that most men who download images are not actually interested in children sexually. They are lumped in with the percentage that are paedophiles which leads to not only them but their innocent family being bullied, harassed to the point of moving or worse still ousted after they do move away. The internet has a lot to answer for in today's world simply because people can usually track you down wherever you run to through the internet. Come on ch 4/ bbc etc. If you must make documentaries , at least make them so that they cover both sides of the story x

I have to agree I will not be watching this. I find this sort of documentary one sided and sensationalist. The title alone is creating a" drama" approach. I do think a documentary highlighting everything we read on here would be very informative. It will take a major upheaval to inform society of the many layers of this sort of crime. Before it happened to us I never even thought about a porn addiction, I mean I wouldn't as my husband totally hid it!!. I was involved recently with some research by Belinda Winder on the effects of " the knock" on partners. Change is happening but I'm afraid sensational " p word" headlines and news reports grab the public and create a frenzy of the mob mentality without facts!. Society doesn't care if a family is damaged, the way they see it at the moment is " well you must of known" or " you're a monster too sticking by them"!

I also will not be watching this, I struggle to watch anything along the lines of police interegating people never mind the subject being so close to home- especially because my dad suffered a complete breakdown during his, hallucinated and admitted to things he didn't do as he thought his life was over already. It makes me think of the poor people out there who get purposely entrapped and interegated when they are at there lowest. The shock that them and the family members recieved is made and then they are left to pick up the pieces themselves and this shouldn't be the case!



I think the only time I would watch something like this is when change comes for the offenders, and rather being labelled and instantly charged, they are helped and able to move on with there lives as yes they have done something wrong, but the label that is over them for the rest of the lives is torture and as my dads probation kindly pointed out to me, will be with him forever even when his sentence is over!

Seeing this advertised in the newspaper tv magazine today made me shiver and my stomach churn, it's a year today since the knock and reminders like that don't help. As much as I would like to know just how the police entice and entrap people because they themselves are pretending to be someone else online too, I think this would be far too close to home to watch. It says 300,000 people in the uk pose a threat surely not all of these can't be branded with the p word.