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Court date is 8th April. for a year now I have told no one no family no friends. The only family I have is my mum we only have each other. She has been shielding since Covid hit as she has COPD so I have had to keep going pretending I am fine life is fine for her and work I keep going. I have decided to standby my partner. other than comments about my drastic weight loss and bags under eyes that I pass off as working harder no one notices anything different. I have to tell my mum the truth soon as court is coming up but I am so scared of loosing her and I need her to help me out the other end
Lee
thank you this brings me a small hope and that's more than I had the other day. I wish you and your family a brighter future. Keep safe xxx
thank you this brings me a small hope and that's more than I had the other day. I wish you and your family a brighter future. Keep safe xxx
Hi Fallen 33.
Like you I kept "the secret" from my girls for 9 weeks. My knock came on the second week of the 1st lockdown. I live a long way from my family in a seaside town, where everyone gets to know what is going on. One of my daughters lives the other side of the world and both of them have small children. I lost their Dad 12 years ago to cancer and they have been my rock.I am usually very open and honest with them and can tell them anything.
However I knew this would really worry and distress them and wanted to tell them face to face. In the end 9 weeks later I broke down at work and told my friend. she urged me to tell them both. My daughters were fantastic, but heartbroken that i had gone through so much and not told them. However they were both frantic with worry, as they had both felt there was something about him, but could not work out what. I feel guilty not telling them, but would have felt even guiltier if i had told them in lockdown. The island I live on had stopped all ferries to and from the mainland and they could not have done anything.
I think you made the right decision not telling your Mum, but like me it was a high price to pay.
Like you I kept "the secret" from my girls for 9 weeks. My knock came on the second week of the 1st lockdown. I live a long way from my family in a seaside town, where everyone gets to know what is going on. One of my daughters lives the other side of the world and both of them have small children. I lost their Dad 12 years ago to cancer and they have been my rock.I am usually very open and honest with them and can tell them anything.
However I knew this would really worry and distress them and wanted to tell them face to face. In the end 9 weeks later I broke down at work and told my friend. she urged me to tell them both. My daughters were fantastic, but heartbroken that i had gone through so much and not told them. However they were both frantic with worry, as they had both felt there was something about him, but could not work out what. I feel guilty not telling them, but would have felt even guiltier if i had told them in lockdown. The island I live on had stopped all ferries to and from the mainland and they could not have done anything.
I think you made the right decision not telling your Mum, but like me it was a high price to pay.