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Im very very new to this i found out 10 days ago that my ex husband (divorce is going through due to his affair) has been arrested due to images.... Im in complete disbelief that however nasty he was towards me he is capable of such a thing and im struggling to process it. I have two children 21 and 20 and we have an 8 year old together to which social services have advised me against contact currently, and if she does then its supervised
Frankly im a mess.
Any advice to get over this immense shock.
Thank you i really don't know where to turn.
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Frankly im a mess.
Any advice to get over this immense shock.
Thank you i really don't know where to turn.
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Hi EC
How are you? The shock will subside I promise. Its a ride you have to ride out. It won't be easy you'll be up and down for weeks until you can process it. For the first 3 weeks I was a mess. Crying, not sleeping, anxious, irritable. Not eating, generally not looking after myself.
After taking the plunge and putting my story on here I got to know the ropes and educated myself on all of this nightmare to come. Ask questions, pour out your feelings. And one of the best pieces of advice is to take this day by day. Don't overwhelm yourself thinking about next week next month etc. Just do your best in the day that your in.
I reached out to the gp and I know recieve weekly therapy and cbt and it has been a godsend to help with my overactive mind.
This journey isn't a fast one unfortunately. It can take some time to get to court.
Prepare yourself for that. I don't have any advice in the way of your children as in my situation there wasn't any. But I'm sure others who do will see your message and come back to you.
My knock was 8 months ago. My bf of just over a year and a half was sentenced recently and I'm dealing with the aftermath of it being in the newspapers. I know how you feel its the did u really know him feeling or why didn't I see the signs. Iv tried to process it i really have. But these men are very secretive and careful to hide this dark side to them.
I feel for you also that he's put you through an affair. That's a double trauma. Sounds like you could never of really known this person.
I hope you find some strength to get through your day, little by little. Lots of self care. Talk to someone you trust. And come on here and we all will try and help in some way.
Look after yourself x
How are you? The shock will subside I promise. Its a ride you have to ride out. It won't be easy you'll be up and down for weeks until you can process it. For the first 3 weeks I was a mess. Crying, not sleeping, anxious, irritable. Not eating, generally not looking after myself.
After taking the plunge and putting my story on here I got to know the ropes and educated myself on all of this nightmare to come. Ask questions, pour out your feelings. And one of the best pieces of advice is to take this day by day. Don't overwhelm yourself thinking about next week next month etc. Just do your best in the day that your in.
I reached out to the gp and I know recieve weekly therapy and cbt and it has been a godsend to help with my overactive mind.
This journey isn't a fast one unfortunately. It can take some time to get to court.
Prepare yourself for that. I don't have any advice in the way of your children as in my situation there wasn't any. But I'm sure others who do will see your message and come back to you.
My knock was 8 months ago. My bf of just over a year and a half was sentenced recently and I'm dealing with the aftermath of it being in the newspapers. I know how you feel its the did u really know him feeling or why didn't I see the signs. Iv tried to process it i really have. But these men are very secretive and careful to hide this dark side to them.
I feel for you also that he's put you through an affair. That's a double trauma. Sounds like you could never of really known this person.
I hope you find some strength to get through your day, little by little. Lots of self care. Talk to someone you trust. And come on here and we all will try and help in some way.
Look after yourself x