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Morning ladies how is everyone doing,, so update now is I have a CIN meeting in two weeks,, plus start the inform course firday to,, I feel everything is going the right way but I am also getting anxious again that sometime is going to go wrong,, I sleep really well last night I think to well I wake up even more tired and yoning my head off, very sore skin on my face and hands off my exma triggers when I am stressed xx
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Thanks yellow House I am so stressing about this meeting and how it's going to go I am telling,, I know I need to calm down but it easier said than done,, how are u doing,,
I just know he got no restrictions and no SOR OR SHPO and understand the risk but I feel like a broken record saying the same things over and over like,
I just know he got no restrictions and no SOR OR SHPO and understand the risk but I feel like a broken record saying the same things over and over like,
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Yes yellow House I started watching it then I had to turn it off cause it made me so angry the way the police offer was talking,,
That everyone was a predator and how he was on about how they set it all...
Yes u will have more good day as time goes on I am having a lot more good days than bad days this month,,
Like u said think its been ready for sw when they come knocking,,
That everyone was a predator and how he was on about how they set it all...
Yes u will have more good day as time goes on I am having a lot more good days than bad days this month,,
Like u said think its been ready for sw when they come knocking,,
Vickie I always find your progress through this process so strong you've done so well. I hope you're getting some chill out time to yourself like you advised me to. I have my face masks on stand by for tonight for my first valentines night alone in about 15 years. I also watched that c4 programme I watched all of it and to be honest it made me feel physically sick throughout it all and I know it was just like a self torture I was putting myself through but I felt like I needed to know what it was showing as I knew it would be all over the media afterwards and might give me some discussion points with my husband.
My anti depressants are really helping me at the moment to regulate some of the anxiety and overwhelming feelings I have been having lately. I don't want to be on them for long and although I can't say I feel happy I feel more inner calm and less on edge which is good.
Good luck with what's coming next Vickie I am sure you will be prepared for everything and that this is just another hurdle on your journey. You've done so much already, keep going x
My anti depressants are really helping me at the moment to regulate some of the anxiety and overwhelming feelings I have been having lately. I don't want to be on them for long and although I can't say I feel happy I feel more inner calm and less on edge which is good.
Good luck with what's coming next Vickie I am sure you will be prepared for everything and that this is just another hurdle on your journey. You've done so much already, keep going x
Hope your all ok, my situation so different my ex is not showing any remorse or anything and it's just creating more barriers in other ways.
What is this tv programme called please I would like to watch. Hope your meeting goes to keep calm and keep it child focused
What is this tv programme called please I would like to watch. Hope your meeting goes to keep calm and keep it child focused
Feel a lot better ladies it does my head in that we get to level point then u look over the edge and u can't see the ground ur that high up. It just was not expecteding any of the results we have got no SOR no SHPO which I believe has blown my mind, and now I have calm down now start working toward this meeting. So here I come again battle number what ever I am not going down with out a fight... Thanks ladies xxx
Vickie is it really unusual for none of those things to be given as well as what he got? I'm still learning what is given and not given.
Mindful I can relate to this behaviour, my son showed no remorse too. The program is called Hunting paedophiles, Channel 4. It's traumatic viewing and could make your situation worse. Don't have any words, but hope you find your own answers, sending hugs xx
Catlady thankyou I found it before seeing your comment the first 15 mins was real hard for me and when the officer was in those chat rooms I could totally relate to how he felt. It's so difficult for me to explain what is going on fully I'm not quite ready to do that yet and can't either.
Saphire, I belive there is a specific list of offences that result in someone being subject to SOR. SHPO are common especially with internet offences as it means the police can monitor someone's internet activity.
It would be unlikely that anyone convicted with viewing, possession, making, distributing iioc or sexual communication with someone underage (including decoys) would end up without being subject to SOR requirements. However the SOR isn't that restrictive it's mostly notifying the police of anywhere you will be spending the night for more than 7 nights in a year, plus details of bank accounts, passports, phone number and any time you leave the country. There is a lot of information about SOR on the Unlock website.
It would be unlikely that anyone convicted with viewing, possession, making, distributing iioc or sexual communication with someone underage (including decoys) would end up without being subject to SOR requirements. However the SOR isn't that restrictive it's mostly notifying the police of anywhere you will be spending the night for more than 7 nights in a year, plus details of bank accounts, passports, phone number and any time you leave the country. There is a lot of information about SOR on the Unlock website.
My Husband was charged with the obscene publication act in the end after having a vile conversation online with another adult abour abusing children. He got a 18 week suspended sentence. 4 weeks after court the police dragged him back and slapped a SHPO on him. This is classed as a civil case and its quite usual for the police to do when they can't put someone on the SOR as part of the charge.