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Hey just wanted some advice if anyone has any.
my boys have been placed on a CIN plan we are only allowed supervise contact in public place.
my boys don't no what is going on with there dad as I ask the police if I should tell them and they said wait till all the evidence is back as I might not need to tell them. (Husband is being investigated for sexualise communication with 1 person for a 1 time chat on an over 18 app the chat didn't involve talk of sex or meeting or photos. It lasted for no more then an hour and he never went back. Think police are seeing if he is a grommer as ss wanted to do work with me about grommimg but still haven't (the knock happened in july2020))
1 of my boys age 6 is autistic and is struggling so much with out his dad wetting the bed not sleeping not eating much and not talking to anyone apart from me he is now back at school and school have told ss they are concerned for his needs.
Can I tell ss that I no longer what to take part in the CIN plan I have made up my own safety plan as a family my parents are foster cares so no very well about being a protective parent and what I need to do and say on the plan. I fully commit to sticking to the plan incase my husband story isn't true and my children could be in danger and (iv also said that to ss loads of time before)
would they automatically move us to a Child protection plan or close the case if they thought the kids weren't at any real harm?
im so worried they would take us to court and remove the boys that's the only reason iv stuck with the CIN for this long but it really isn't helping my son being away.
any advice or story would be great as it's nice to read that I'm not alone
my boys have been placed on a CIN plan we are only allowed supervise contact in public place.
my boys don't no what is going on with there dad as I ask the police if I should tell them and they said wait till all the evidence is back as I might not need to tell them. (Husband is being investigated for sexualise communication with 1 person for a 1 time chat on an over 18 app the chat didn't involve talk of sex or meeting or photos. It lasted for no more then an hour and he never went back. Think police are seeing if he is a grommer as ss wanted to do work with me about grommimg but still haven't (the knock happened in july2020))
1 of my boys age 6 is autistic and is struggling so much with out his dad wetting the bed not sleeping not eating much and not talking to anyone apart from me he is now back at school and school have told ss they are concerned for his needs.
Can I tell ss that I no longer what to take part in the CIN plan I have made up my own safety plan as a family my parents are foster cares so no very well about being a protective parent and what I need to do and say on the plan. I fully commit to sticking to the plan incase my husband story isn't true and my children could be in danger and (iv also said that to ss loads of time before)
would they automatically move us to a Child protection plan or close the case if they thought the kids weren't at any real harm?
im so worried they would take us to court and remove the boys that's the only reason iv stuck with the CIN for this long but it really isn't helping my son being away.
any advice or story would be great as it's nice to read that I'm not alone
Thanks for your reply lee u seem to no all about ss and the right way to treat them!!!!! Ok think it might be best to stay as we are as I'm hoping we r so close to the end as the phone has been in download now for 12 weeks! And the new ss keeps ringing the police for updates!!!! I just hate seeing how much it is hurting my child and that ss don't care!
Hello,
From my experience I would stay on the CIN plan as social care can hold a strategy meeting with other professionals (if you disengage) and move you onto a CP plan - which are harder to exit!
My eldest was extremely distressed not seeing her dad. I found that copying in both officer in charge and social worker in an email discussing the impact on their emotional well-being helped ease some of the restrictions. He is now allowed contact in the family home as long as it's supervised. Be honest but factual. If the children are suffering then you need to present ideas of how this can safely be addressed. (In my case it was the police who were dictating contact and not social care).
Good luck xXx
From my experience I would stay on the CIN plan as social care can hold a strategy meeting with other professionals (if you disengage) and move you onto a CP plan - which are harder to exit!
My eldest was extremely distressed not seeing her dad. I found that copying in both officer in charge and social worker in an email discussing the impact on their emotional well-being helped ease some of the restrictions. He is now allowed contact in the family home as long as it's supervised. Be honest but factual. If the children are suffering then you need to present ideas of how this can safely be addressed. (In my case it was the police who were dictating contact and not social care).
Good luck xXx
What strikes me most is that there's a huge variation in how social care/workers handle such cases.
I think even with an identical case there'd be a differing approach depnding on allocated worker and area of the country etc
We were lucky. Had a CP conference was placed on a CIN plan which concluded after the second review. Police then reduced bail conditions (although they made it clear they were in charge of this and not social care). We completed a 6 week course with the social worker - he was very effective and timely which is rare!
Have you approached a specialist solicitor on family law? Perhaps a fresh consultation may be of use. Sounds like you are doing pretty much everything you can! However, if it is, like you say, the police dictating the conditions there may not be a huge amount they can do right now.
Your poor girl. Are there any charities that offer mental health support in your area? I've seen that camhs won't take her on. In my area there are a couple of charities which or school nursing teams that offer mental health support when camhs won't.
xXx
I think even with an identical case there'd be a differing approach depnding on allocated worker and area of the country etc
We were lucky. Had a CP conference was placed on a CIN plan which concluded after the second review. Police then reduced bail conditions (although they made it clear they were in charge of this and not social care). We completed a 6 week course with the social worker - he was very effective and timely which is rare!
Have you approached a specialist solicitor on family law? Perhaps a fresh consultation may be of use. Sounds like you are doing pretty much everything you can! However, if it is, like you say, the police dictating the conditions there may not be a huge amount they can do right now.
Your poor girl. Are there any charities that offer mental health support in your area? I've seen that camhs won't take her on. In my area there are a couple of charities which or school nursing teams that offer mental health support when camhs won't.
xXx
Sounds as though the oic is on a power trip and doesn't have your child's best interests in mind! Ask for the oic in charge manager to attend your next CIN/CP meeting? There must be a way to challenge this! It's tough as I am desperate to write a letter/complaint to the oic in charge in our case but as it's still on going I can't until it's over as I'm worried it'll impact the outcome.
Wow.
Sounds like you've covered every avenue! It also sounds like the police have closed ranks making it impossible for you!
I guess your only option is to have a family solicitor/lawyer attend all meetings but that's cost a fortune.
Would they not even consider contact in a staffed contact centre with local authority workers?!
Sounds like you've covered every avenue! It also sounds like the police have closed ranks making it impossible for you!
I guess your only option is to have a family solicitor/lawyer attend all meetings but that's cost a fortune.
Would they not even consider contact in a staffed contact centre with local authority workers?!
No. I get that. The police made it very clear to our social worker that the set the conditions and they don't have much, if any, say.
Sorry I can't be much help!
xXx
Sorry I can't be much help!
xXx