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Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Tue January 22, 2019 7:56pmReport post

So still feeling rubbish but I'm my home from work I kicked myself up the backside and by the time I got home I was feeling better, open the door and letter from the solicitor.

My lovely, soon to be and I can't wait, ex--husband has started to make ridiculous demands including me paying him £500 a month rent in our old house from when he moved out until it was sold!! He wants me to agree that I spend significantly more than him on socialising and appears to be trying to make a claim on my parents house as although they are both alive and kicking their house was signed over to me and my brother a good few years ago

Bang, straight back to feeling rubbish, why is it all such a struggle!!

We're in court for the divorce on the 30th Jan so not much longer to wait but not looking forward to that!!

Xx

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed January 23, 2019 9:09amReport post

Thanks Poster.

Maybe the report about how this has affected me isn't a bad thing to do.

Fortunately I've woken up so much stronger today, god knows why but I'm pleased, I'm feeling I'm going to kick his arse next week, figuratively speaking of course!!

Thanks for your support, it means the world xx

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KLK

Member since
October 2018

99 posts

Posted Wed January 23, 2019 1:51pmReport post

Oh, Tracey, I cannot believe any man who is putting his partner through such a horrendous ordeal could even think to try and rip you off like this. He is unbelievable! Makes me shudder to think anyone could even represent him in such a way too.

Stay strong lady x

Bethlou23

Member since
December 2018

383 posts

Posted Wed January 23, 2019 6:04pmReport post

Absolutely Tracey. You have the moral high ground any judge should rule in your favour! You ladies are all so strong.

Coincidentally, how soon after the knock did you apply for the divorce. I know I need to formally show I am separated as I work with young people and don’t think simply living separate life’s will be a strong enough message to show I have left the relationship. I have to make things official.

its so hard that men can’t accept that you didn’t have any part to play in their decisions. There is no way you should pay any additional costs. I completely agree with the advice from poster!

I remain greatful to know I am not the only one going through good days and bad days.

Xxx

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Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed January 23, 2019 8:13pmReport post

Hi Bethlou23

Generally you have to be separated for a long while but I went down the road of his unreasonable behaviour so you can go anytime and do it that way.

My solicitor put the reason why we're divorcing down but our husbands don't have to agree the reason, my stoods husband did and it's now being used as part of his trial because in effect he's agreed to the reasons and is now claiming he's never looked at images of children!!

Good luck xx

Bethlou23

Member since
December 2018

383 posts

Posted Wed January 23, 2019 8:29pmReport post

Thanks tracey,

it is certainly unreasonable behaviour. What ever the cause behind it. Each and everyone of them will have realised it was morally unacceptable. Hence why the hiding and denial.

I have told my partner that we have to divorce. I just did t know if I should do it sooner than later and wait for the trial. I remember you said you have multiple court dates this year. I hope you have some support through this. It’s strange he is denying looking at the images is he going to deny the police evidence. My partner is minamising the situation. I do understand that some women do stay and I totally respect and understand their decisions. It’s nice though that I am not the only one choosing to walk away.

keep us updated with your situation.

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed January 23, 2019 8:35pmReport post

I have a family court date on the 30th Jan for the divorce which is when we should agree the settlement.

On the 8th Feb is when he should be proving that what he is claiming, which is that the images downloaded themselves as he's note saying he's never looked at images of children only adult porn.

Then if he stays with not guilty we have the trial with the jury at the beginning of April.

My husband has never accepted responsibility and had certainly minimised what he's done!

I would have far more respect if he admitted what he's done and agreed to get help but to try and blame others and denying everything is just plain disgusting

Stay strong my lovely, you're not alone, we're in this together xx