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Im nearly a year into this mess. I chose to stick by my partner. I have completed loads of work including -
Intense course,
Safeguarding courses and loads of work with my daughter. And my partner is completing the intense plus course and is awaiting to go on the horizon course but unfortunately due to Covid that's put a hold on it.
He has a year left with probation. We are currently on child protection which the 3rd conference is due in May, which my social worker has said is looking at stepping back, but after being let down before by my old social worker I'm not getting my hopes up. I'm currently doing work with a family support worker aswel and she as said I've done well with all the work I've completed myself and keep safe work with my daughter. There's no concerns at the core group meetings from anyone and we are just going round and round in circles. We are determined to get my partner home.
I'm not sure what I'm asking for really, I've literally been through everything, but any advice on anything to get to where I want would be great.
Intense course,
Safeguarding courses and loads of work with my daughter. And my partner is completing the intense plus course and is awaiting to go on the horizon course but unfortunately due to Covid that's put a hold on it.
He has a year left with probation. We are currently on child protection which the 3rd conference is due in May, which my social worker has said is looking at stepping back, but after being let down before by my old social worker I'm not getting my hopes up. I'm currently doing work with a family support worker aswel and she as said I've done well with all the work I've completed myself and keep safe work with my daughter. There's no concerns at the core group meetings from anyone and we are just going round and round in circles. We are determined to get my partner home.
I'm not sure what I'm asking for really, I've literally been through everything, but any advice on anything to get to where I want would be great.
Thanks for your reply,
We have completed a safety plan already and his probation officer has took notes about what's in it. And social seem happy. I have also been chatting to a lff advisor who I completed the intense course with as I needed some advice about his motivation as when asked I said after talks with my partner he said it was boredom and then social seemed unhappy so lff said to say I think if you say that his motivation will have been a series of things like you have explained and that there will have been a sexual element to his behaviour but all of these motivating factors can be managed and he will learn the strategies to do this on his course which he will share with as he moves through the course.
This as been and still Is a horrible experience, I'm so glad I found this forum and stop it now other I think I'd have never got through it. Also I'm not alone and the only one. I just don't know what to expect now, and will they back down in May? And let him home, I don't no. Sorry to be honest I'm a mess even a year on.
We have completed a safety plan already and his probation officer has took notes about what's in it. And social seem happy. I have also been chatting to a lff advisor who I completed the intense course with as I needed some advice about his motivation as when asked I said after talks with my partner he said it was boredom and then social seemed unhappy so lff said to say I think if you say that his motivation will have been a series of things like you have explained and that there will have been a sexual element to his behaviour but all of these motivating factors can be managed and he will learn the strategies to do this on his course which he will share with as he moves through the course.
This as been and still Is a horrible experience, I'm so glad I found this forum and stop it now other I think I'd have never got through it. Also I'm not alone and the only one. I just don't know what to expect now, and will they back down in May? And let him home, I don't no. Sorry to be honest I'm a mess even a year on.
I have done a long list of courses including child protection, which was god all of my own back which I found. They have said that I've done so much work and loads with my daughter that there's not much point keep going over it. I've got 2 sessions left with a family support officer. Has she's happy with how my daughters been made knowledgeable age appropriately. So doesn't need to see her.
The intense plus course is with stop it now (lff) yes we found it through this forum the same with the intense course I completed. Yes it's a lot of money but it's very beneficial. Finally we feel our hard works paying off, just wish they would tell me things the worst part is being left in the lerch x
The intense plus course is with stop it now (lff) yes we found it through this forum the same with the intense course I completed. Yes it's a lot of money but it's very beneficial. Finally we feel our hard works paying off, just wish they would tell me things the worst part is being left in the lerch x