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For those who haven't read my story before
My dad was arrested last summer for viewing iioc.. he has been honest throughout he used porn as an escape due to mental health.. and in a chat room has been sent images/videos and viewing them assuming they were adult until he clicked, he was so numb to porn he just clicked away and didn't even think to report
I don't live there and haven't in a few years
He received his court summons recently I'm not 100% on the charges - this is due to not wanting wanting know as I'm actually heavily pregnant and don't need more stress and worry
I just have no one to talk to I I want to speak to my parents, my boyfriend is really struggling with it and the potential upcoming shame if this goes in the media
I darent speak to my midwife incase of a ss referral as I know this can happen even though I don't live there because there potentially would be contact I know people have said the sooner it happens the sooner the assessments will be over but I'm not ready for that part yet I'm too fragile and I worry the impact it could have on me and my unborn baby
I asked my parents if I could talk to work they've told me I can't incase it gets out
It's certainly not an after work topic to discuss withy boyfriend I'm ashamed that my family has caused us this pain
I've tried the helpline and no one answers
What's going to happen I want it to go away I honestly can't cope anymore, it's all I think about, from the second I open my eyes until I close them again at night :( the only thing keeping me going is my unborn baby I dread to think what I would be if it wasn't for them
My dad was arrested last summer for viewing iioc.. he has been honest throughout he used porn as an escape due to mental health.. and in a chat room has been sent images/videos and viewing them assuming they were adult until he clicked, he was so numb to porn he just clicked away and didn't even think to report
I don't live there and haven't in a few years
He received his court summons recently I'm not 100% on the charges - this is due to not wanting wanting know as I'm actually heavily pregnant and don't need more stress and worry
I just have no one to talk to I I want to speak to my parents, my boyfriend is really struggling with it and the potential upcoming shame if this goes in the media
I darent speak to my midwife incase of a ss referral as I know this can happen even though I don't live there because there potentially would be contact I know people have said the sooner it happens the sooner the assessments will be over but I'm not ready for that part yet I'm too fragile and I worry the impact it could have on me and my unborn baby
I asked my parents if I could talk to work they've told me I can't incase it gets out
It's certainly not an after work topic to discuss withy boyfriend I'm ashamed that my family has caused us this pain
I've tried the helpline and no one answers
What's going to happen I want it to go away I honestly can't cope anymore, it's all I think about, from the second I open my eyes until I close them again at night :( the only thing keeping me going is my unborn baby I dread to think what I would be if it wasn't for them
Hi BS. its a lonely journey we are on isn't it?
Try and focus on your future with your new baby and remember you have nothing to be ashamed of. When you have your baby you will not have time to worry so much.
Do you have a friend you can talk to that you can trust? I find talking about it helps me, but I know not everyone is that lucky.
Try and relax and sleep and save all your energy for that little bundle of joy. xx
Try and focus on your future with your new baby and remember you have nothing to be ashamed of. When you have your baby you will not have time to worry so much.
Do you have a friend you can talk to that you can trust? I find talking about it helps me, but I know not everyone is that lucky.
Try and relax and sleep and save all your energy for that little bundle of joy. xx
It really is :( I just wish it was a nightmare nightmare I will just wake up from
I just want the court date etc to just be here so we can just move on.. whatever life will look like and whether it comes out in the media
No I have no one I could talk to, my parents don't want me to either the fear of it coming out if it doesn't need too
I'm lost
Thankyou for replying
I just want the court date etc to just be here so we can just move on.. whatever life will look like and whether it comes out in the media
No I have no one I could talk to, my parents don't want me to either the fear of it coming out if it doesn't need too
I'm lost
Thankyou for replying
BS, you should be able to talk to your GP who may advise counselling for yourself so that you can get some of this off your chest.
Please for your unborn baby and your own health just take a step back. What will be will be and no amount of worrying will change that, but you can make yourself ill.
This is a long road, my husband was sentenced today after 22 months, so you must find a way to function until the date arrives.
Put yourself and baby first, I am sure your dad will totally understand. Not all cases are reported on so try not to dwell on that until the day as it could all be wasted energy.
Focus on that little bundle of joy. You will get through this my lovely. We all do one way or another. Sending strength and love your way. You can do this. Xxx
Please for your unborn baby and your own health just take a step back. What will be will be and no amount of worrying will change that, but you can make yourself ill.
This is a long road, my husband was sentenced today after 22 months, so you must find a way to function until the date arrives.
Put yourself and baby first, I am sure your dad will totally understand. Not all cases are reported on so try not to dwell on that until the day as it could all be wasted energy.
Focus on that little bundle of joy. You will get through this my lovely. We all do one way or another. Sending strength and love your way. You can do this. Xxx
Dottie
I'm so worried to even speak to anyone professional with the worry of ss ???? I think that would just be the icing on the cake
Sorry to hear that your also going through this and I hope you begin to find some closure after sentencing
I'm praying it's not reported on as I honestly feel that would just make everything worse and I don't know if I could forgive not only what has happened but that people around us no
Some days are harder than others and qhen I feel baby move it reminds me that one day everything will be okay.. just wish I could forget
Thankyou xxx
I'm so worried to even speak to anyone professional with the worry of ss ???? I think that would just be the icing on the cake
Sorry to hear that your also going through this and I hope you begin to find some closure after sentencing
I'm praying it's not reported on as I honestly feel that would just make everything worse and I don't know if I could forgive not only what has happened but that people around us no
Some days are harder than others and qhen I feel baby move it reminds me that one day everything will be okay.. just wish I could forget
Thankyou xxx
BS, love I rang my doctor and honestly he was brilliant. I told him everything and he was very understanding. I was referred to CBT therapy and it's been brilliant for calming my extreme anxiety from the knock. I'm guessing I'm a lot older than you ( 50 this year!) and believe me you need to focus on yourself and your baby. Try and distance yourself from everything going on with your Dad. I know it's very very hard but in a few weeks or whenever you are due having a newborn is exhausting without this added worry. If you google CBT therapy techniques honestly they can help. Even just breathing techniques to slow the anxiety, plus the breathing will help being heavily pregnant but please take care love ( I've gone into full on mother hen mode!) xx
Louise49
I'm at my gp next week for something else and was wondering if to mention it, but I'm so worried about the ss stuff :( it literally terrifies me!
Sometimes I forget for a moment especially when baby is kicking away and I'm just in awe then a minute and it's back like a punch in the face.. we are 6ish months down the line and for a short time it was put to the back of our minds and its all just come back:(
Sorry you are on this path too :( it's awful
Thankyou for.your advice and being a mother hen, this is my first baby so I worry the impact stress etc will have :( xx
I'm at my gp next week for something else and was wondering if to mention it, but I'm so worried about the ss stuff :( it literally terrifies me!
Sometimes I forget for a moment especially when baby is kicking away and I'm just in awe then a minute and it's back like a punch in the face.. we are 6ish months down the line and for a short time it was put to the back of our minds and its all just come back:(
Sorry you are on this path too :( it's awful
Thankyou for.your advice and being a mother hen, this is my first baby so I worry the impact stress etc will have :( xx
I really think you need to talk to someone. If you are going to the GP anyway I would ask about options for counselling, you don't have to give specifics, but you could say that you have a lot of family issues going on right now and it's causing major anxiety.
Alternatively if you feel you could afford to pay for private counselling, try StopSo. They offer counselling related to this exact issue, both for the offenders and their families. Maybe a few sessions of taking therapy will help you work through some of this. Even if you can't or don't think you can afford to pay for it, try StopSo anyway, as some have been given a small number of sessions for free in the past
Alternatively if you feel you could afford to pay for private counselling, try StopSo. They offer counselling related to this exact issue, both for the offenders and their families. Maybe a few sessions of taking therapy will help you work through some of this. Even if you can't or don't think you can afford to pay for it, try StopSo anyway, as some have been given a small number of sessions for free in the past
Bs, if your dad is charged the police will ask about any children in the family, so at some stage you will get a call from ss making sure you are aware of his conviction. At this point they may want you to have some sort of safety plan in place but as you don't live at the same address I would presume they wouldn't have any great part to play. There must be someone on here that knows the answer. I looked into it myself because my children are in relationships and of an age where they will be thinking of having a family soon.
My point is you may as well talk properly to your GP and get the help you so need now for your health and that of your babies. I'm sorry if I scared you about ss but if you don't live with your dad nothing much apart from making sure your aware of the situation should come of it.
xxxx
My point is you may as well talk properly to your GP and get the help you so need now for your health and that of your babies. I'm sorry if I scared you about ss but if you don't live with your dad nothing much apart from making sure your aware of the situation should come of it.
xxxx