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I have posted here before, my son is in prison for communicaiion offence, i love my son but my husband is now saying i should disown him for what he has put us through.I cannot do this and i feel i would rather die than give up on my son who will be home after christmas.
Hi there
No one has the right to tell you to disown your son. He's your son who has made a mistake and is paying for it in prison. Whilst it isn't ideal you have had to ensure this journey its your decision whether to stay involved with him or not. He should respect your wishes in maintaining that mother son relationship. Like if he decides not to carry on the relationship with your son I guess you must do the same. Have you thought about councilling together to talk through these issues and come to terms with it all? You may find by talking it out with an impartial person you and your husband may learn to understand each others views and move forward in a more positive way x
No one has the right to tell you to disown your son. He's your son who has made a mistake and is paying for it in prison. Whilst it isn't ideal you have had to ensure this journey its your decision whether to stay involved with him or not. He should respect your wishes in maintaining that mother son relationship. Like if he decides not to carry on the relationship with your son I guess you must do the same. Have you thought about councilling together to talk through these issues and come to terms with it all? You may find by talking it out with an impartial person you and your husband may learn to understand each others views and move forward in a more positive way x
Your husband has no right to tell you that. It is your decision and your decision only. Is your son remorseful and struggling with what he has done and now experiencing, if so he will need people to help him and give him that second chance when he comes out of prison. It will be hard enough for him without losing the love of his parents too. If your husband made a big mistake would he not want that second chance?
Stick to your guns on this, explain why it is important to you and do what your heart tells YOU to do. Xxx
Stick to your guns on this, explain why it is important to you and do what your heart tells YOU to do. Xxx
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Yes My husband is his father, i only have the one child and i am nor prepared to disown him. He is very remosful and getting the help he needs, he has lost his wife and little son so in no way i am going to give up on him as well.
Hi Fatso
what a terrible thing for your husband to say to you. Very, very unfair.
We have talked before on mumsnet so you know the story of my son. Our sons could have almost committed twin crimes because they are so similar . My sons dad and I are together, my husband was angry for a while because we had to change our lives because of our sons behaviour but he never once mentioned him or I disowning our son. I would have been terribly hurt if he had voiced such a thing as like you, I'd rather die than disown my son and not least of all for the reason our son needs our support. I don't think our son could survive without the support of his family. You do what feels right for you and not for anyone else is my advice x
what a terrible thing for your husband to say to you. Very, very unfair.
We have talked before on mumsnet so you know the story of my son. Our sons could have almost committed twin crimes because they are so similar . My sons dad and I are together, my husband was angry for a while because we had to change our lives because of our sons behaviour but he never once mentioned him or I disowning our son. I would have been terribly hurt if he had voiced such a thing as like you, I'd rather die than disown my son and not least of all for the reason our son needs our support. I don't think our son could survive without the support of his family. You do what feels right for you and not for anyone else is my advice x