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SoTired

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March 2021

380 posts

Posted Wed March 10, 2021 12:14amReport post

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majestictopaz15

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December 2019

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Posted Wed March 10, 2021 3:52pmReport post

Hi so tired.

You have taken the brave step to reach out and this is a great forum to hear from others in similar situations. I recommend reading the the forum and there is a search function to look for specifics. There are parents here who will be in the same boat as you.

The Lucy faithful helpline is useful and I recommend giving them a ring. The stop it now website is great for offenders and family and friends to get support and help. There are courses available and material to learn about the reasons such offending and what to expect.

If you are comfortable to do so would you mind giving a bit more detail of what your son is accused of and where in the process you are? E.g. recent arrest, under investigation, charged and sentenced etc. This will help those in the forum give you the best advice and able to share their experiences. -please do not feel obligated to say anymore than you already have.

Big hugs

Vickie

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November 2020

428 posts

Posted Wed March 10, 2021 6:58pmReport post

Hi so tired

Sorry u find ur self here but there is a lot of support and help on here and the help line is really helpful to,,

Big hugs x

Maij

Member since
December 2020

286 posts

Posted Wed March 10, 2021 7:03pmReport post

Hi Iamsotired,

So sorry to hear you are going through this. It was my first time posting a couple of days ago. Like you my son to has found himself in trouble. Its devastating and bewildering . Only disclose what you feel you want but I agree if we know alittle about your circumstances , where you are in the process individuals can support you better. You are not alone . Seek some support from the lucy faithful foundation helpline, i have called them a couple of times and they have been very helpful . You take care of yourself.

SoTired

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March 2021

380 posts

Posted Sat March 20, 2021 12:10amReport post

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Maij

Member since
December 2020

286 posts

Posted Wed March 24, 2021 12:41amReport post

Hi Iamsotired



I fully understand and empathise with you. My son is in his early 20s, your son is so young and still a child. We don't know your circumstances for what you son is being investigated for but maybe he made some choices on the internet that he didn't fully understand and was inadvertently lead down the wrong path not understanding what he was being exposed to and not fully understanding the implications for victims, himself and your family. I do hope the investigation team shows some leniency at such a young age. You say you feel disgusted, ashamed. You haven't done anything wrong, please seek advice from the LFF, his school and this forum for support. We can't tell you how you should feel, because these are very personal but try not to let how you feel stop you from communicating positively with your son, I don't mean just about what has happened but just about everyday things and doing things that you enjoyed doing with your son before all this happened. Its so important to have some normality whilst waiting for the outcome which can take sometime.

I am devasted too , its the last thing I think about at night and the first thing that I think about in the morning. But during the day we all try to keep busy and try to do normal everyday things in this difficult time. I too love my son dearly and I truly believe he is a good person but he has made some bad and unacceptable choices. I am so pleased he self disclosed he is taking responsibility which reinforces to me that he wants this to stop.

keep posting we can offer support

take care both of you

Edited Wed March 24, 2021 2:04am