Should I be worried - no ss contact yet
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We got the knock last Tuesday for iioc. We have two children 8 (daughter) and 11(son). The police said ss would be in contact. A week later we have still had no contact. Is this normal, I am so worried about this and I have read such horrible things. Are they saving up everything so that they can make things difficult? So anxious just waiting for a phone call!
Thank you, I am just so scared what they will say or do. It is just the next bit of the nightmare hanging over us.
Thank you so much for your calm level headed words.
He is still living with us but our relationship has changed. I want us to be together and some days I think yep we can get through this and others like today I can't bear to be alone with him. I can see he is hurting and just wants us back the way we were, but there is a lot of stuff to work through.
is there anything ss would ask and any way I can be prepared. I don't want him to move out. The kids are understanding that me and him are having a grown up argument and he is in the spare bedroom. They feel safe and know that they are loved.
He is still living with us but our relationship has changed. I want us to be together and some days I think yep we can get through this and others like today I can't bear to be alone with him. I can see he is hurting and just wants us back the way we were, but there is a lot of stuff to work through.
is there anything ss would ask and any way I can be prepared. I don't want him to move out. The kids are understanding that me and him are having a grown up argument and he is in the spare bedroom. They feel safe and know that they are loved.
He was arrested for iioc by the sounds of things for over a year. Our children are 8 and 11.
The forum is fantastic and everyone is so incredibly brave. It is good to hear you and others have made it. My hope is we will too.
The forum is fantastic and everyone is so incredibly brave. It is good to hear you and others have made it. My hope is we will too.
Oh my goodness, it sounds horrific. I can't believe how people can be so nasty and willingly destroy people. I can understand how you feel that it has made you stronger. As much as I have bad days I know that I would do anything for my children and do the right the thing for them.
Thank you so much for your advice. I will have a good look at the safety plans, I have already put things in place. Have you found more often than not (reading through posts I am assuming more more than likely) that my husband will have to leave the family home?
Have you found if ss talk to the children's school, will they tell me first? I work at my daughters school and the head is aware but my son is at high school and obviously I haven't told them what is going on.
thank you so much to you all for replying and talking to me x
Have you found if ss talk to the children's school, will they tell me first? I work at my daughters school and the head is aware but my son is at high school and obviously I haven't told them what is going on.
thank you so much to you all for replying and talking to me x
Social services will almost certainly inform both schools..They may give u the choice as to whether u inform your sons high school,but either way, high school will be informed.. social worker informed my daughters high school ( not behind my back I might add)
My husband had to leave the family home as at the time of the offence, our daughter was nearly 10.
2yrs later and we're still waiting for him to return home as he's been sentenced. So for us that part is over,now to work on getting him home..Its only social services who are holding this up xx
My husband had to leave the family home as at the time of the offence, our daughter was nearly 10.
2yrs later and we're still waiting for him to return home as he's been sentenced. So for us that part is over,now to work on getting him home..Its only social services who are holding this up xx