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Oh my days

Why are social care such a nightmare..concluded our assessment and have said at present its of their view that husband can't return home,that they feel I'm not suited to supervising in the home as the level of risk is too much for me to handle.

Theyve Completely twisted everything that's been said in mine and my husbands sessions with them and portrayed me to be nothing more than an idiot parent who cant be trusted and doesn't understand anything..

Because I choose to stand by my husband and because I choose to believe that he never actively went looking for the images or actively requested them I'm.not to be trusted to supervise in the home,so they're saying that he can't even have contact in the home either and we're to continue with contact in the community.

I think its disgusting that they're expecting us to sit out in all weather's eating food that's gone cold before we've had a chance to find somewhere to sit..to expect our daughter to endure that is downright disgusting..

Theyve totally stabbed me in the back and turned on me regardless of everything I've done to prove that I can and will keep her safe..they've even used the security camera I got against me by saying that its an invasion of my daughters privacy even though the SW agreed to my face that the camera was a good idea in terms of keeping our daughter safe at night while we slept..

I cannot believe the way the SW has turned on me..

Well one rather lengthy email later to her manager stating how everything has been twisted and how I want said assessment looked at again and how it's disgusting to expect us to continue with contact in the community..

SW has been told that probation have said they're going to help get him home, sw has even been told that hubby's offender management officers have said he should be at home because its their view that the risk level hasn't changed and they can't understand why he's not already at home.

Probation have been duly informed of what SS have said and are going to contact them..

And get this aswell, SW suggested that if I could get a family member to supervise in the home then she'd consider allowing contact there.. so i told her there was no one that could do it..

I said you can't expect us to still have contact in the community in this weather, its not fair on our daughter..she was told that at the very least if she wasn't going to allow hubby home yet then have some faith in me,trust me and believe in me that I can supervise in the home just as much if not more as I'm already doing..

So qt that point, SW said she'd contact probation and speak to them and get their version of how much of a risk they think he is and from what they've said so far and about getting him home,I dnt think they feel he's much of a risk at all..

Are we ever going to get a break:-(