Loved ones reacting badly
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I'm having a lot of trouble at the moment with the various reactions my close family have had to my (now ex) partner being under investigation for iioc.
On one hand I have a relative who is very empathetic and understands things are not black and white, on the other hand I have siblings who have very strong opinions but are trying to be supportive.
However the worst of it all is my mother. She has always wanted to control my life and my choices and I cannot say how much I regret confiding in her.
Last night she sent me a disgusting text telling me how hard all of this is on her and basically blaming me. She has always been emotionally abusive and I just want the freedom to make my own decisions and choices in all of this without her input. But I think I will always live in fear of her, so will perhaps be forced into a choice, even if it's not the one I would prefer.
I don't know what to do or how to handle it. It's taking all my strength to get through this without having to deal with her on top of it.
On one hand I have a relative who is very empathetic and understands things are not black and white, on the other hand I have siblings who have very strong opinions but are trying to be supportive.
However the worst of it all is my mother. She has always wanted to control my life and my choices and I cannot say how much I regret confiding in her.
Last night she sent me a disgusting text telling me how hard all of this is on her and basically blaming me. She has always been emotionally abusive and I just want the freedom to make my own decisions and choices in all of this without her input. But I think I will always live in fear of her, so will perhaps be forced into a choice, even if it's not the one I would prefer.
I don't know what to do or how to handle it. It's taking all my strength to get through this without having to deal with her on top of it.
hiya..i have the same problem. I've been stopped from seeing grandkids and treated as if I'd done wrong but my advice would be if your mum is like that with you walk away especially since he is now your ex. xx
I'm sorry to hear that DD. I hope for you that with time it will become a possibility that you can see your grandkids again or that they will be old enough to make their own decisions in reaching out to you.
Thanks for pointing me towards Peggy's post Lee1969. It really helped to read that and today the forum has given me the strength to stand up for myself and not let myself be bullied into what I should think or feel, so thank-you for that.
Thanks for pointing me towards Peggy's post Lee1969. It really helped to read that and today the forum has given me the strength to stand up for myself and not let myself be bullied into what I should think or feel, so thank-you for that.