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my family don't know I still see him I've already lost a son and 2 grandkids and if my other son knew I'd lose him and my new grandchild aswell and that would end me..i can't be the Nannie I want to be in too scared to get close to my grandson incase my son finds out and I lose them aswell so I think for my own sanity and so I can have my hands on and he can have his Nannie I think I have to walk away..i sometimes think E is still with me because he reels guilty about everything that's happened to me..i just keep thinking why on earth what kind of person gets involved with someone with kids and grandkids when they have this hanging over them..who does that I mean really did he not realise the impact this would have on someone's life but what angers me more is he still has his grown kids in his life and the innocent person has lost everything ..i had it all..great friends best job ever I'd waited a long time for twin granbabies on the way life 2as brilliant then he appeared and it was like my life was complete then I found out what he'd been charged with..i will never trust anyone again so thanks to this I've lost everything and I'm now gona sell my home as I can't live here because neighbours don't speak now..ive been in this house 26years.im so angry how dare he get involved with someone knowing what he'd done ..how dare he
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Thank you for reaching out for some support and advice from the Family and Friends Forum. We have noticed that your post has not yet received a response from other forum users yet. It is positive that you have been able to access support from forum users on different threads, but I recognise how hard it may have been to write this post, so I just wanted to say well done for doing so. I am really sorry to hear that you are struggling at the moment and I would encourage you to contact us on our Stop It Now! Helpline on 0808 1000 900. One of our trained and non-judgmental operators will then be able to support you further and provide some tailored guidance and advice which you might find helpful, such as discussing how you might approach conversations with your children.
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Hi there DD, so sorry you are in this terrible position, my now ex husband is a 2 x offender, and at the 2nd offence I hand to make the decision to walk away, that was in 2018 when we were 24 yrs married, our 2 boys only the oldest one has made contact and seen his dad, since then, the younger one, hasn't seen or spoken to him since April 2018. I do see my ex regularly, however it's as a friend only. Walking away from our marriage was so hard, but it was the best thing for me and my boys, who are both now adults, I live in Scotland and after his 1st offence had to move towns, as it was just so awful the reaction from others towards me and the boys, luckily 2nd time we had no problems, I was worried we would as the boys were very settled in school / college, I don't have any grand children yet, but would absolutely hate if I had and couldn't see them xx
Hi DD
I completely understand how you feel. My ex did this crime in 2017 met me in 2019 and unbeknown to me or anyone else he was wanted for it by the police under investigation. Yet continued to get into a relationship with me and never disclosed it. So I totally can relate to your pain, anger and upset at him being so cruel. It's definately scarred me for life and I totally feel the same how will you ever trust again but we must in the sense to be able to find peace and move forward.
Whilst I am lucky in the sense I didn't have children to him I feel truelly lucky I can make a clean break from him.
My heart breaks for you as you have a difficult choice to make and your home is up for scrutiny and that is so bloody dam unfair. I really feel for you that your son has turned his back on you. I really hope in time that time heals for all involved and you can rebuild a better life, and find some happiness.
Sending you my love and sorry to see your post only getting acknowledged today. That is frustrating.
Yazz x
I completely understand how you feel. My ex did this crime in 2017 met me in 2019 and unbeknown to me or anyone else he was wanted for it by the police under investigation. Yet continued to get into a relationship with me and never disclosed it. So I totally can relate to your pain, anger and upset at him being so cruel. It's definately scarred me for life and I totally feel the same how will you ever trust again but we must in the sense to be able to find peace and move forward.
Whilst I am lucky in the sense I didn't have children to him I feel truelly lucky I can make a clean break from him.
My heart breaks for you as you have a difficult choice to make and your home is up for scrutiny and that is so bloody dam unfair. I really feel for you that your son has turned his back on you. I really hope in time that time heals for all involved and you can rebuild a better life, and find some happiness.
Sending you my love and sorry to see your post only getting acknowledged today. That is frustrating.
Yazz x