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Thank you for all your kind comments on my previous post, they were so helpful.
she came and dare I say it, it wasn't as bad as I initially thought. I felt like she saw how we work as a family and how angry I am with him but for my children's well-being now is not the right time for him to go. I will know that time if it does come at all. She will meet the kids next week and then will see my husband. She said she is hopeful that she would be able to close the case (I can't believe that!!) depending on what polit says (I do wonder what they will say considering that they are still investigating!) otherwise it will be a child in need plan. I still feel sick and actually I feel my moods going more extreme and I am really wanting to scream.....
she came and dare I say it, it wasn't as bad as I initially thought. I felt like she saw how we work as a family and how angry I am with him but for my children's well-being now is not the right time for him to go. I will know that time if it does come at all. She will meet the kids next week and then will see my husband. She said she is hopeful that she would be able to close the case (I can't believe that!!) depending on what polit says (I do wonder what they will say considering that they are still investigating!) otherwise it will be a child in need plan. I still feel sick and actually I feel my moods going more extreme and I am really wanting to scream.....
Thanks Lee1969
I thought it would be their go to answer. Am I right in thinking she won't get much from polit?
I now feel like I'm loosing control with things. My daughters class bubble is closed so I'm at home. The anger I feel Is so explosive just waiting simmering ......
I thought it would be their go to answer. Am I right in thinking she won't get much from polit?
I now feel like I'm loosing control with things. My daughters class bubble is closed so I'm at home. The anger I feel Is so explosive just waiting simmering ......
Hi Sid
I am glad your 1st visit wasn't as bad as you thought. I couldn't stop crying in mine; it was all so raw. In the early days I was like you I felt I had no control over the circumstances. I went through the 7 stages of grief and back again in between mostly feeling angry that I wasn't the one who had done anything wrong yet here I was being scrutinised by SS. I went to my GP and was referred for counselling; which SS saw as protective.
SS will get the limited information from the OIC and put this into your C&F assessment. The information your husband gives to them will also appear in it; so be prepared if he hasn't disclosed all to you or has been a bit vague; this is where you might start questioning him even more - I did!!
We were put on a child in need plan and my husband moved to a flat in the next town for the length of the investigation; 14 months. We had contact in the community at first. SS knew that we wanted to remain a family and I was keeping an open mind until I had heard more facts. They eventually closed our case after 10 months.
I also read somewhere to make a list of three things to get through each day which I started doing - no matter how small even if it was doing the washing etc. I found it helped and concentrated my mind. I also found reading the forum helped me through the early days.
I am glad your 1st visit wasn't as bad as you thought. I couldn't stop crying in mine; it was all so raw. In the early days I was like you I felt I had no control over the circumstances. I went through the 7 stages of grief and back again in between mostly feeling angry that I wasn't the one who had done anything wrong yet here I was being scrutinised by SS. I went to my GP and was referred for counselling; which SS saw as protective.
SS will get the limited information from the OIC and put this into your C&F assessment. The information your husband gives to them will also appear in it; so be prepared if he hasn't disclosed all to you or has been a bit vague; this is where you might start questioning him even more - I did!!
We were put on a child in need plan and my husband moved to a flat in the next town for the length of the investigation; 14 months. We had contact in the community at first. SS knew that we wanted to remain a family and I was keeping an open mind until I had heard more facts. They eventually closed our case after 10 months.
I also read somewhere to make a list of three things to get through each day which I started doing - no matter how small even if it was doing the washing etc. I found it helped and concentrated my mind. I also found reading the forum helped me through the early days.
Thank you for your replies. I have been at with our daughter as her class bubble popped. He Can't help out because of course he isn't allowed to be alone with her!!! Not working and sat in our home that I feel he has completed tainted and ruined is awful.
do you know.... I think why am I angry and laugh. I'm angry that he has done it, I'm angry that he has made our relationship a joke and a lie. I'm angry that he appears to be continuing as normal (when I question him how he is doing it, he says that he has to and barely doing it) I'm angry that the responsibility of the kids falls to me, putting them to bed, hair washing etc. I am so blooming angry and I can't shake it off, I just want a hug from my best friend, my husband and I can't do that because he is the one that has caused all this!
do you know.... I think why am I angry and laugh. I'm angry that he has done it, I'm angry that he has made our relationship a joke and a lie. I'm angry that he appears to be continuing as normal (when I question him how he is doing it, he says that he has to and barely doing it) I'm angry that the responsibility of the kids falls to me, putting them to bed, hair washing etc. I am so blooming angry and I can't shake it off, I just want a hug from my best friend, my husband and I can't do that because he is the one that has caused all this!