Older children and media
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What happens to the older children....
I'm so worried about if and when this hits the media. Would anyone be willing to share their childs experience.
My child will probably be around 11/12.
I'm terrified.
From 2 sides.... The parents of the children who have come round for playdates, dinners and sleep overs and then how my eldest could be treated, what will happen to her friendships. I'm not sure how much is shared when stories are reported in the media but what if they share it all then I need to tell me daughter the true horror before someone else tells her. Kids can be cruel... This will always follow her won't it! Heart broken for my children
I'm so worried about if and when this hits the media. Would anyone be willing to share their childs experience.
My child will probably be around 11/12.
I'm terrified.
From 2 sides.... The parents of the children who have come round for playdates, dinners and sleep overs and then how my eldest could be treated, what will happen to her friendships. I'm not sure how much is shared when stories are reported in the media but what if they share it all then I need to tell me daughter the true horror before someone else tells her. Kids can be cruel... This will always follow her won't it! Heart broken for my children
Bless you my son is the same age and I am feeling the same, so can't offer any advice. It is killing me that his life could be affected. I am working on the fact as time goes on and we start knowing more I will start preparing him. He (probably like your son) isn't daft and knows something isn't right.
Yeh they definitely know, so switched on. I'm so so sad for my children!!! I still remember thinking what the F ! When I asked for advice from the social worker on what to tell my children about why daddy can't come home and she said tell them he is working away.... I struggle to understand how she can make these huge decisions for my family but in the same meeting she thinks telling my eldest daddy is working away is possible or right. One of the few moments I've had to hide a smile and laugh in because I just couldn't believe what I heard!
I see lots of people move away and change names etc but that she isn't something I could imagine doing. Xx
I see lots of people move away and change names etc but that she isn't something I could imagine doing. Xx
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Oh wow Steli, I can't quite believe they showed an image to your 9 year old and couldn't have handled the identification themselves with you. I'm so relieved for you that you managed to keep that it hit the media from her.
It's really good to hear that your daughter's friendships haven't changed and that their parents have been supportive. It's such a big worry for me.
Yes my daughter will start secondary school soon and teens can be so cruel. The idea of changing our name is so scary to me. I just can't imagine doing it but completely understand why it's a good idea.
That's good that the LA are supportive of having her out of school for a while.
Thank you for your words and support xxx
It's really good to hear that your daughter's friendships haven't changed and that their parents have been supportive. It's such a big worry for me.
Yes my daughter will start secondary school soon and teens can be so cruel. The idea of changing our name is so scary to me. I just can't imagine doing it but completely understand why it's a good idea.
That's good that the LA are supportive of having her out of school for a while.
Thank you for your words and support xxx
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My son had just turned 13 and was present at the time of the knock. He therefore knew from the start. During the investigation as my husband lived elsewhere my son's friends were still able to come round. My son's greatest fear was the media and his school friends knowing. I kept him updated throughout the investigation just a few words each time as he didn't want to dwell on it. As the court case approached I did recommend he came of his media however he didn't want to - that was his go to and "normal" life. It did hit the media and my son did read the articles so he was prepared as best he could be for if any of his friends brought it up but thankfully noone ever did. It therefore hasn't spoiled any of his friendship groups.
I had informed school of when the court cases were and asked them to keep an eye out for him on the day. As SS had closed our case by then this was this time my son could have done with their support the most however we were left to support each other.
We didn't move away and we didn't change our name. I found keeping my son up to date helped him absorb what was going on in stages and prepared him.
My son had just turned 13 and was present at the time of the knock. He therefore knew from the start. During the investigation as my husband lived elsewhere my son's friends were still able to come round. My son's greatest fear was the media and his school friends knowing. I kept him updated throughout the investigation just a few words each time as he didn't want to dwell on it. As the court case approached I did recommend he came of his media however he didn't want to - that was his go to and "normal" life. It did hit the media and my son did read the articles so he was prepared as best he could be for if any of his friends brought it up but thankfully noone ever did. It therefore hasn't spoiled any of his friendship groups.
I had informed school of when the court cases were and asked them to keep an eye out for him on the day. As SS had closed our case by then this was this time my son could have done with their support the most however we were left to support each other.
We didn't move away and we didn't change our name. I found keeping my son up to date helped him absorb what was going on in stages and prepared him.
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