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JE

Member since
September 2020

42 posts

Posted Sun March 21, 2021 1:55amReport post

Hi everyone.

Unfortunately I've come to realise lately that I am just not coping at all. It's been 5 months since the knock and it's my Dad. I've gone into a complete state of disassociation. I can't sleep, I don't want to eat. I've been off sick from work for two weeks now because I can't focus on anything that I'm doing. I feel like I've completely lost the plot and like I'm going insane. I called my GP, I'm already on anti depressants (started when this all first happened) and she said she could offer me sleeping pills and a referral to NHS counselling but as much as I think the NHS is fantastic I've never had much luck with the counselling they provide as its very general and I feel like with this issue I need something more specialist. and I've been told this week that the waiting list is a minimum of 3 months for an assessment appointment therefore I'm looking at private counselling.

Does anyone have any recommendations for types of counselling that has been helpful when your relative commits these crimes and to try and cope with everything that comes with it? I feel like a type of trauma therapy might be helpful but there are thousands of counsellors out there and I don't know where to start.

Any guidance or recommendations would be really appreciated, I am seriously sinking.

Hope you are all doing okay. This is the hardest journey I have ever been on.

Tabs

Member since
November 2019

501 posts

Posted Sun March 21, 2021 11:21amReport post

I agree with Lee. I use a StopSO therapist. She not only helps me process my feelings, she also knows of the offences, and can help me with the processes, and what he may be thinking and going through, having clients who are in that position. Costs vary, I contacted StopSO who put me in touch with a therapist fairly local to me. I used to see her face to face, now it's on zoom, still useful, but I don't need to talk to her very often now. Husband has a StopSo therapist and he is speaking to her weekly at the moment, leading up to sentencing. I think she is keeping him grounded. X

KDLB

Member since
April 2020

27 posts

Posted Sun March 21, 2021 11:37amReport post

I think I need this too, I feel like I've held it together mostly anyway over the last year but now we are past sentencing I feel like all my emotions are coming out. I e been offered counselling at work but no way I could open up to them ( I work in education) I am going to look at StopSo

JE

Member since
September 2020

42 posts

Posted Sun March 21, 2021 11:40pmReport post

Thank you everyone. I have submitted an inquiry on the stopso website so hopefully I will hear from someone soon.