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Everything is imploding my support network has completely colasped over the weekend and my husband is waiting on emergency housing his not allowed home whilst under investigation I feel sick to stomach have applied for benefits for him as currently not able to work covid related I have no idea where they are going to put him. Trying to hide all this from child and I'm struggling.
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very wise words yellowhouse.
I did not tell anyone for 9 weeks as I was worried about him. As a result 8 months on I was having panic and bad anxiety attacks and was barely functioning. 2 weeks at my daughters over Christmas and I realised i had to think of myself as I knew my girls were both worried sick and they both have small children to look after.
Don't make my mistake. I am ok now but still on tablets and am clenching my teeth so much in my sleep that i have to use a retainer or I end up badly biting the inside of my mouth. Your Husband will be ok.
I did not tell anyone for 9 weeks as I was worried about him. As a result 8 months on I was having panic and bad anxiety attacks and was barely functioning. 2 weeks at my daughters over Christmas and I realised i had to think of myself as I knew my girls were both worried sick and they both have small children to look after.
Don't make my mistake. I am ok now but still on tablets and am clenching my teeth so much in my sleep that i have to use a retainer or I end up badly biting the inside of my mouth. Your Husband will be ok.
I completely understand how you're feeling. I felt the exact same at your stage. I ended up going to stay at a relatives for a few weeks as I couldn't handle the thought of him being chucked somewhere!
With the benefits, once he's called up and spoken to them, they will send a form for him to completely then they are able to send out an in advance payment of what the predict he'll be entitled too. They did this for me and it was in my bank the same day. Annoying it takes 5 weeks to have it official but as I said they will pay earlier.
It's hard because you know you should be putting yourself first but at the same time knowing your husband is okay helps you to feel better.
Maybe both contact your GPs and both of you call the StopItNow helpline. For support.
Hold on in there xxxx
With the benefits, once he's called up and spoken to them, they will send a form for him to completely then they are able to send out an in advance payment of what the predict he'll be entitled too. They did this for me and it was in my bank the same day. Annoying it takes 5 weeks to have it official but as I said they will pay earlier.
It's hard because you know you should be putting yourself first but at the same time knowing your husband is okay helps you to feel better.
Maybe both contact your GPs and both of you call the StopItNow helpline. For support.
Hold on in there xxxx
I am speaking to helpline and gp and have been signed off work and start with counciling this week. Things were starting to improve but family have stopped supporting him. I know his gotten himself here and dragged me snd them along for the ride to hell and back but I can't just abandon him he knows his done wrong and is beating himself up his also asking for help and doing the online bits and wants to do the courses. His really trying and I know I need to work on me. just scared that if his chucked in some hostel with no access to the courses a land line ect he will implode his been suicidal and was just getting on an even footing now his bring kicked out by the ones supporting him
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Thankyou