Core meetings - a time to make me look like a bad mother.
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Please tell me I'm not the only one that they wait until the core meetings (SW, health visitor and the children's schools) to inform me of things about my children and my life that are out standing and need attention?
Every core meeting it's something that could have been bought to my attention a lot sooner. This time it was my children's school who flagged up Heath concerns about one of my kids. I wanted to scream at her Why didn't u ring me or pull me aside when I was collecting my children and inform me of this not wait till the core meeting to make me look like a bad mum?
my partners mess and he gets a raving review because he's doing what they ask of him while I'm left to juggle work, child care, school runs and everyday day to day housework and shopping. Of course he does because since being on the sick from work he has f**k all to do.
also again it was brought up in the meeting that I never have my children and they are left to the care of others. Where the f**k do they get this information from? For two weeks I had the flu and not one person offered to take the kids or do a shopping run for me. I even asked my in-laws for help with the shopping and they told me they were too busy.
sorry for the swearing and the moaning i just needed to vent and hope that someone understands what I'm going through too.
thanks
Every core meeting it's something that could have been bought to my attention a lot sooner. This time it was my children's school who flagged up Heath concerns about one of my kids. I wanted to scream at her Why didn't u ring me or pull me aside when I was collecting my children and inform me of this not wait till the core meeting to make me look like a bad mum?
my partners mess and he gets a raving review because he's doing what they ask of him while I'm left to juggle work, child care, school runs and everyday day to day housework and shopping. Of course he does because since being on the sick from work he has f**k all to do.
also again it was brought up in the meeting that I never have my children and they are left to the care of others. Where the f**k do they get this information from? For two weeks I had the flu and not one person offered to take the kids or do a shopping run for me. I even asked my in-laws for help with the shopping and they told me they were too busy.
sorry for the swearing and the moaning i just needed to vent and hope that someone understands what I'm going through too.
thanks
Morning Rusty123,
You are certainly not alone! I completely get where you're coming from.
I've had this with previous professionals. I've had a SW laugh in my face in front of everyone else, I've had schools bring up things that had not been previously mentioned to us and I've had a SW lie to the chair of our CPC meeting. The chair then asked me why I had broken the conditions of our safety plan (even though I hadn't) and not one professional stuck up for me! The other professionals knew what our plan was. I then mentioned this to our new SW who said I should have challenged it but I was in shock and I don't do confrontation! Thankfully our new SW was able to go through our previous plan and was able to show the chair the truth. She then did apologise to us (3 times!) in our next meeting.
I'm sorry you are having to go through similar things. Professionals need to learn to communicate better! I hope it gets better for you.
Xx
Ps, you're not a bad mother either!! Xx
You are certainly not alone! I completely get where you're coming from.
I've had this with previous professionals. I've had a SW laugh in my face in front of everyone else, I've had schools bring up things that had not been previously mentioned to us and I've had a SW lie to the chair of our CPC meeting. The chair then asked me why I had broken the conditions of our safety plan (even though I hadn't) and not one professional stuck up for me! The other professionals knew what our plan was. I then mentioned this to our new SW who said I should have challenged it but I was in shock and I don't do confrontation! Thankfully our new SW was able to go through our previous plan and was able to show the chair the truth. She then did apologise to us (3 times!) in our next meeting.
I'm sorry you are having to go through similar things. Professionals need to learn to communicate better! I hope it gets better for you.
Xx
Ps, you're not a bad mother either!! Xx
Hi rusty
I defo get this I don't ask anyone to jack cause it get thrown back at me,, I have told his parents everything sw sat and did a child protection meeting with them and they said they know it to be a conversation and his step dad said u don't go to prison for a conversation well guess what u do cause he has. I have told them all the details I know. Then people wounder why I have trust problems so yes rusty I get it ur damed if u do and damed if u don't. As if u are meant to just put it all in a box and thrown it away How's that health for anyone well I know nothing so just going to turn into a nodding dog I think sorry for the rant I so get what ur saying hun xx big hugs xx
I defo get this I don't ask anyone to jack cause it get thrown back at me,, I have told his parents everything sw sat and did a child protection meeting with them and they said they know it to be a conversation and his step dad said u don't go to prison for a conversation well guess what u do cause he has. I have told them all the details I know. Then people wounder why I have trust problems so yes rusty I get it ur damed if u do and damed if u don't. As if u are meant to just put it all in a box and thrown it away How's that health for anyone well I know nothing so just going to turn into a nodding dog I think sorry for the rant I so get what ur saying hun xx big hugs xx