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Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed January 30, 2019 6:41amReport post

So today is the day I face him in court for the financial settlement part of our divorce, to say I'm not looking forward to it is an understatement!

I have had a terrible week with nightmares, melt downs, panic attacks and bring medicated up to my eye balls just to get through it, I wish they knew the effect this has on us!

I feel I can't tell my nearest and dearest because I don't want them to worry so much of it is in secret where you slap a smile on your face and pretend your world isn't crumbling!!

I don't want to see him, I don't want to fight over money, I don't want to hear the lies he's sure to spout, I want to go back to bed, take a sleeping pill and wake up when it's all over!

I can't even take a tablet today because I've got to drive and they make me so dope you it'll be dangerous

Let's hope I have reasonable news later and I don't end up in loads of debt because the judge ages with him - a year ago this want even on my horizon, how things change hey, it's just so sad

Xx

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Andrea

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September 2018

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Posted Wed January 30, 2019 9:47amReport post

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KLK

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October 2018

99 posts

Posted Wed January 30, 2019 4:48pmReport post

I hope all went ok today Tracey x

Maria

Member since
September 2018

286 posts

Posted Wed January 30, 2019 6:19pmReport post

I hope today went well for you and you got what you wanted and deserve.

Bethlou23

Member since
December 2018

383 posts

Posted Wed January 30, 2019 6:34pmReport post

Tracey all the love for being strong today. I hope the judge had some good news for you and recognised the trauma he has put you through.

i hope you can rest this weekend and have some good tv to catch up on and a glass of wine.

xxx

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed January 30, 2019 9:04pmReport post

Well let's just say it didn't go to plan, he offered me £6500 and him to have £46,000, that's fair hey?

Trouble is it i didn't accept it he'd then go after my share in my parents house which my barrister said there was a 50/50 chance of him getting. I discussed it with my parents and boys, my dad who's 83 cried and my mum who's 80 said she would never live with him getting her house so I have no choice, I can't put my parents through it.

My boys have told me to cut my losses because of how ill it's making me so I'm going to accept the 6.5k even though I think it's so bloody unfair that he's getting away with it!

I just can't wait for karma but I wish it'd hurry up.

Really emotional, tiring day but my family and friends have been amazing as always

Thank you all for your lovely message, it really does mean a lot

Lots of love to you all xx

Krissie

Member since
October 2018

57 posts

Posted Wed January 30, 2019 9:25pmReport post

Thats beyond a joke Tracey it should have been a much more even amount for everything that he has put you through. But I think that keeping your parents house secure is a good call. The horrible things we have to go through. The bright side for you is thats one more thing done and over with.

I must say thank you though. Im currently going through a divorce and i brought the property and money into the marriage and after reading your posts I spoke to my solictor about protecting it after the divorce which i hadnt thought about. I now have a clean break order which stops him making a claim on my property, car and pensions. I now feel that my daughter and I are more secure so thank you for these posts

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed January 30, 2019 9:38pmReport post

Well done Krissie on protecting what's yours. It's awful that we have to do this, I never thought he would treat me in such a horrific way but you live and learn!!

Stay strong xxx

Andrea

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September 2018

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Bethlou23

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December 2018

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Posted Thu January 31, 2019 10:20amReport post

Oh Tracey,

what a stressful day for you yesterday. Whilst it sounds that you have a strong supportive family and empathetic sons. Don’t forget to breathe and take timeout for you. Like your sons said your health is important and they sound so mature .

I hope karma does bite back. Bringing your parents into it was so low of him.

xxx

Scrappy

Member since
January 2019

66 posts

Posted Thu January 31, 2019 12:52pmReport post

How utterly awful you have had to face this x your house is yours tho and you can build a new life now x you’re all so kind on here I’m finding a lot of comfort reading everything