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TryingToBreath

Member since
February 2021

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Posted Thu March 25, 2021 9:08pmReport post

I did it... I took a deeppppp breath and called the helpline.

I don't know how I feel about it at the moment but I do think it will be a positive experience one way or another. I have my phone assessment/conversation booked... !

My stomach will be in knots of nerves I'm sure but I also have a strange feeling LIKE*! excitement but not... Weird one. I think I just want to experience telling someone every single tiny detail and know that I don't need to care what they're thinking or how they are feeling. I've spoken to family but kept some stuff back, I've kept some stuff back on here and I don't like to talk about it too much with my partner as it's so upsetting. So as much as I'll probably be emotionally exhausted after the phone call I do think I'll feel a little lighter. Then hopefully a little or a lot more knowledgeable after the course. Plus being able to talk to real life partners going though the same as me. Wish me luck ladies...



Partner wise I've seen people mention about stopso therapy.... Is that basically the same thing but for the accused/offender...? And this assesses them as to whether or not they're interested in children..? My partner hasn't built up the courage to call yet but he needs to do it and more for himself and for the sake of the court case when CPS have finished. Any guidance and info would be great on what migrating factors are please ?



Thanks xxx

Autumn Gold

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February 2021

25 posts

Posted Sun March 28, 2021 2:34pmReport post

Well done Trying to breath in taking that first step. I had called the Helpline yet wasn't ready to take that step to do the course at the time as I was still processing the anger. Later on in a calmer and light bulb moment I realised that SS wanted to see me being proactive and this could be beneficial to all of us; that was my turning point.

I am glad you have your phone assessment booked; it really helped me to talk through the situation with someone who had insight into these crimes. I did the Inform course on a 1-2-1 basis and it made me process things too. I didn't tell family and this was my support as well. My husband also did the Inform Plus course and that really helped him as well. I asked SS for a contribution towards the consultation and one towards a donation to LFF for the course which they were able to do with their limited funds.

Is it soon your phone assessment? With regards to mitigating factors showing remorse for the crime, taking ownership of the crime,husband wanting to get help, working with SS and local agencies, working with the school, doing the Inform Plus/Inform course; (my husband took his file to the court), character references, ringing the helpline, seeking GP help and counselling can be seen as positive and protective measures.

Steli

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February 2021

70 posts

Posted Sun March 28, 2021 3:50pmReport post

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Autumn Gold

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February 2021

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Posted Sun March 28, 2021 4:39pmReport post

Steli I have been reading your story and I am really glad that your daughter is getting the help she deserves from school. I did the course 1-2-1 as there wasn't anybody else waiting to do the course at the same time as me. I actually liked doing it 1-2-1 as it meant we could explore things that came up which I feel I may not have opened up to in a group and I believe knowledge is also power. It was seen as protective with SS when I did the course. I felt with the 1-2-1 as though someone was listening who had the knowledge and experience and it was very helpful for me. For me it was worth doing and I would recommend it if you can do it. SS were able to tap into a fund in our case for the initial assessment.

Steli

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February 2021

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Posted Sun March 28, 2021 9:26pmReport post

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