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Sophie79

Member since
January 2021

15 posts

Posted Fri March 26, 2021 9:52amReport post

Hi,

We've been told that my estranged husband can't have unsupervised access until my son can understand what has happened. He's currently 4-years-old and they have said probably not for a minimum of 10-years.

He doesn't live locally but now when he visits, he stays in a hotel because he can't stay overnight as it's not supervised.

My son will be starting school in September, what do you say to people about why he never stays with his Dad or why he can't look after him so that I get time for myself?

I'm also thinking about the future if/when I meet someone new... what on earth do you say?

Thanks.

T2021

Member since
December 2020

84 posts

Posted Fri March 26, 2021 12:32pmReport post

I just tell people he can see them here at my house. They don't need to go to his they have all of there things here. So far, nobody has questioned it.

Sophie79

Member since
January 2021

15 posts

Posted Fri March 26, 2021 1:32pmReport post

That makes sense.

What about if someone says to me... get your husband to look after your son and then we can meet up child free? I guess there are only so many times you can say no.

T2021

Member since
December 2020

84 posts

Posted Mon March 29, 2021 6:07pmReport post

Yes I know what you mean. It's so tough. I'm lucky I can ask my mum to babysit occasionally, but it hasn't really been an issue yet with the covid rules. Do you have any other support?