Feel like giving up :-(
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I feel the same today. I am so fed up with my new reality. It's been a yr and half and I'm so exhausted from pretending everything is fine to people they don't know, of jumping through the SW high hoops, trying to stay positive but also trying to remain realistic.
What's happened, have you shared your situation with people and they haven't been supportive ?
Today's another day... We are much strong than we think we are. Sometimes I like to think of my situation and think imagine if it was my sister or my friend what would I think and how would I feel as the outsider ..... I know id be in absolute awe of the strength they had to be able to carry on with such a weight on their shoulders!
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What's happened, have you shared your situation with people and they haven't been supportive ?
Today's another day... We are much strong than we think we are. Sometimes I like to think of my situation and think imagine if it was my sister or my friend what would I think and how would I feel as the outsider ..... I know id be in absolute awe of the strength they had to be able to carry on with such a weight on their shoulders!
xxxx
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Dear Feel like giving up
My heart totally goes out to you. I have been in a similar situation, only with my son, not hubby. SS and Cafcass use a completely different measure for almost all aspects of assessment it seems to me. When the Police say an offender is a low risk, SS seem to dismiss this. I THINK the fact that your hubby's risk has apparently gone down is because for SOR / MOSOVO (Sex Offender's Register; Managing Sexual Offenders and Violent Offenders), their people don't allow a "medium risk" assessment for ANYONE who has committed any ONLINE offence . . . I think this is because it's so easy for them to re-offend in this crazy online world?? But other "groups" would possibly put your hubby at low risk of re-offence due to the low evel of his offence.
I'm guessing a bit . . . .
Keep strong - your husband and kids need their daddy. One day your children will thank you I am sure.
xx
My heart totally goes out to you. I have been in a similar situation, only with my son, not hubby. SS and Cafcass use a completely different measure for almost all aspects of assessment it seems to me. When the Police say an offender is a low risk, SS seem to dismiss this. I THINK the fact that your hubby's risk has apparently gone down is because for SOR / MOSOVO (Sex Offender's Register; Managing Sexual Offenders and Violent Offenders), their people don't allow a "medium risk" assessment for ANYONE who has committed any ONLINE offence . . . I think this is because it's so easy for them to re-offend in this crazy online world?? But other "groups" would possibly put your hubby at low risk of re-offence due to the low evel of his offence.
I'm guessing a bit . . . .
Keep strong - your husband and kids need their daddy. One day your children will thank you I am sure.
xx
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Lee I'm really sorry but I didn't post to come under attack ,I posted for help and advice..never at any point have I ever said that he hadn't done something wrong and I really wish everyone would stop implying that I have said so..
And when I say 2 arrests, the 2nd was because they'd managed to download his device from his 1st arrest..
And its quite upsetting to say that he's putting me and my daughter in danger, that's hurt quite alot..but hey everyone is entitled to their opinion..
I didnt post to be judged and I wont be posting again.
I wish u all well on your journey and I hope you get your answers.
Goodbye and good luck
And when I say 2 arrests, the 2nd was because they'd managed to download his device from his 1st arrest..
And its quite upsetting to say that he's putting me and my daughter in danger, that's hurt quite alot..but hey everyone is entitled to their opinion..
I didnt post to be judged and I wont be posting again.
I wish u all well on your journey and I hope you get your answers.
Goodbye and good luck
Lee isn't judging you she is trying to help you
unfortunately as far as ss are concerned because of the offence they likely will deem him a risk to his own children you can ask them to do a risk assessment of your husband if haven't already and you need to show ss that you can safeguard your children and put there needs before your husband unfortunately if ss don't think you are safeguarding your children then they will take legal action
im not having a go either we are simply both trying to help you
unfortunately as far as ss are concerned because of the offence they likely will deem him a risk to his own children you can ask them to do a risk assessment of your husband if haven't already and you need to show ss that you can safeguard your children and put there needs before your husband unfortunately if ss don't think you are safeguarding your children then they will take legal action
im not having a go either we are simply both trying to help you
I felt I needed to quickly jump on this before I take my dog out!. Lee as you know I've been here for about 10 weeks or so. You and a lot of lovely ladies on here have offered incredibly support, invaluable advice and normal chit chat ( which I've very much needed!!). I've learned so so much about porn addiction. I aswell as all women on here don't want to be here do we?! It's a horrible situation we are all in,but I've always said women are the experts at rallying round, supporting each other and getting through very very tough times together. I'm supporting my husband, we are a very strong bond but my god I don't condone what he's done. I said it on another thread that weirdly we are getting on better and making time for each other, just the worlds worst wake up call eh. I think like alot of women on here if we are armed with all the info and support we can get through somehow. I know I want to!, I loved my life before my world caved in and I will love my life again, just a horrible bit to get through but I will for my husband and kids, simple really xx