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Hi all,
First time posting, not sure where to start.
Last July after I picked up my 18 month old son from the childminders I had a knock at the door 6 CID and 2 SW's.
My now ex partner was in bed (where he always was) was arrested for possessing and sharing images. My life changed from that day.
We aren't together anymore but so much has happened since then. I was told 9 months to complete an investigation which brings us to April 2021...
I have become so worried about what will come out in the papers I have decided to move out of the area and start life again fresh.
I just wanted some advice on timescales for investigations and of they are realistic? I was told 9 months but feel this could go on a lot longer.
Thanks all
First time posting, not sure where to start.
Last July after I picked up my 18 month old son from the childminders I had a knock at the door 6 CID and 2 SW's.
My now ex partner was in bed (where he always was) was arrested for possessing and sharing images. My life changed from that day.
We aren't together anymore but so much has happened since then. I was told 9 months to complete an investigation which brings us to April 2021...
I have become so worried about what will come out in the papers I have decided to move out of the area and start life again fresh.
I just wanted some advice on timescales for investigations and of they are realistic? I was told 9 months but feel this could go on a lot longer.
Thanks all
Hiya, sorry you have joined the club nobody wants to be in, the knock from cid etc is just horrendous,
As for time scales, it can vary dramatically depending on where you live, I am in Scotland my ex husband was arrested in April 2018, and sentenced in September 2018, for a second offence. For his 1st offence he was arrested in Aug 2009 and sentenced in February. Unfortunately I know of some ladies who are reaching 2 yrs from knock/ arrest to sentencing. All I can advise is just take each day as it comes, make time for yourself and the children, also call the lff helpline, if you have Sw involved, I know from experience that they can be very hard work, and come across as aggressive, but they are only doing their job, and some ladies on here have had some really good ones, try of you can to use them to your advantage. Xx
As for time scales, it can vary dramatically depending on where you live, I am in Scotland my ex husband was arrested in April 2018, and sentenced in September 2018, for a second offence. For his 1st offence he was arrested in Aug 2009 and sentenced in February. Unfortunately I know of some ladies who are reaching 2 yrs from knock/ arrest to sentencing. All I can advise is just take each day as it comes, make time for yourself and the children, also call the lff helpline, if you have Sw involved, I know from experience that they can be very hard work, and come across as aggressive, but they are only doing their job, and some ladies on here have had some really good ones, try of you can to use them to your advantage. Xx
I also mirror what's been said here it does really depend on where you live. Covid had delayed things that against the volumes of these crimes can cause delay. I wouldn't get your hopes Up and bank on the 9 months. In my ex partners case he was delayed twice for charges but the overall time frame from the knock to the sentencing was 8 months. I don't think there is anyway of knowing which is one of the hardest parts of all of this xxx
Same as the ladies above have said... Unfortunately the time scales seems to be the same as the charges. Completely different for everyone. We had the knock in September 2019 and we have just started the CPS part which I'm told will take a few months then I dunno about the time scales between the bail hearing and sentencing and court. I'm think another 6 month all in all but wish it could be over tomorrow.
You just have to continue taking it a day at a time and looking after yourself and your little one. Hopefully moving away has taken a small part of your worry away. I know it would for me. I hope you have a family member or friend you can talk to openly, if not you've always got everyone on this forum, it's certainly saved me from se very panicked and lonely moments.
Lots of love and best wishes XXX
You just have to continue taking it a day at a time and looking after yourself and your little one. Hopefully moving away has taken a small part of your worry away. I know it would for me. I hope you have a family member or friend you can talk to openly, if not you've always got everyone on this forum, it's certainly saved me from se very panicked and lonely moments.
Lots of love and best wishes XXX