Children’s health visitor- advice please.
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Hi does anyone find there children's health visitor kind of picky? I have only met her in person once and she praised my children. Thing is any health concerns she has about my children she will raise them in the core meetings and not with myself before hand. My sons on medication and she's talks about him coming off it or reducing it but every time I do he becomes ill. I feel if the doctor is happy with his medication then she should leave well alone. Also school raised a health concern about one of my kids (also they waited till the meeting to raise this concern) and I could see the health visitor jumping about in her seat waiting to put her opinions across.
ive spoke to a friend about this who says that they are just picking at me and she says I've done well by doing everything they ask of me and want to know how I keep my cool because if it was her she would have lost her temper with them. I'm thinking about ringing my doctor up and getting an appointment to talk about the medication and what the health visitor has said and to ask him to do a review and if I then can tell the social worker to back the **** up as it's being managed by him.
I can't go into details of medication or illness but it's nothing major or life threatening but with the right medication it's controlled.
thanks and I hope ur well
ive spoke to a friend about this who says that they are just picking at me and she says I've done well by doing everything they ask of me and want to know how I keep my cool because if it was her she would have lost her temper with them. I'm thinking about ringing my doctor up and getting an appointment to talk about the medication and what the health visitor has said and to ask him to do a review and if I then can tell the social worker to back the **** up as it's being managed by him.
I can't go into details of medication or illness but it's nothing major or life threatening but with the right medication it's controlled.
thanks and I hope ur well
I haven't had any dealings with the Health Visitor; mine was with the School Nurse. I wouldn't have liked it either if they hadn't spoken to me beforehand. I agree with you regarding visiting your GP for a review. SS like to see that you are being proactive with the health of your children. Do you have the mobile no of the Health Visitor? This will show SS that you would contact the Health Visitor if you needed any advice. You could also phone or text the Health Visitor just before your meetings to update her with anything (so she will already be aware before the meeting and therefore there should be no surprises). I found they like to be involved otherwise they really wouldn't have anything to say at the meeting because you are doing it all.
I also think school should raise things with you beforehand as well so that you can put in support measures. Besides the meetings do you catch up with the schools anyway? Do you have a contact within the school; I am sure you do? It's never ending isn't it; it's hard yet you are doing the right thing by your children. How are you as well?
I also think school should raise things with you beforehand as well so that you can put in support measures. Besides the meetings do you catch up with the schools anyway? Do you have a contact within the school; I am sure you do? It's never ending isn't it; it's hard yet you are doing the right thing by your children. How are you as well?
Thank you for ur reply. I'm going to get on to the doctor in the morning for an appointment for a review.
I thought I had a good relationship with school as one of my child's grandparents is well known and a active part in the school but I feel this changed after the first core meeting with them and they seem to look down there nose at me and I feel they judge me. But it could be me being paranoid.
i thought with schools off this week it gives me the chance to get on top of my family's health and try to cover bases then when schools back on i will report back to them and ask that I'm contacted before meetings or as soon as any health concerns crop up so I can get straight on it.
did u get everything sorted with ur school nurse? If u did can I ask how u did it? Also how are u? I am fine I didn't think I'd be as strong as what I am being. People told me I was and I would get through it but I didn't believe them. In the end I had to pick myself up dust myself down and just get on with it. I'd love to tell SS and the health visitor to do one but I know it wouldn't look good on my part nor help my case.
thanks again and I hope ur well x
I thought I had a good relationship with school as one of my child's grandparents is well known and a active part in the school but I feel this changed after the first core meeting with them and they seem to look down there nose at me and I feel they judge me. But it could be me being paranoid.
i thought with schools off this week it gives me the chance to get on top of my family's health and try to cover bases then when schools back on i will report back to them and ask that I'm contacted before meetings or as soon as any health concerns crop up so I can get straight on it.
did u get everything sorted with ur school nurse? If u did can I ask how u did it? Also how are u? I am fine I didn't think I'd be as strong as what I am being. People told me I was and I would get through it but I didn't believe them. In the end I had to pick myself up dust myself down and just get on with it. I'd love to tell SS and the health visitor to do one but I know it wouldn't look good on my part nor help my case.
thanks again and I hope ur well x
Rusty
Your health visitor should be working in partnership with you if she has a suggestion or a problem she should raise it with you then if you don't do what's asked then bring it up in the meeting. Having a health Visitor isn't compulsory but would be frowned upon if not. Hang On in there lovely x.
Your health visitor should be working in partnership with you if she has a suggestion or a problem she should raise it with you then if you don't do what's asked then bring it up in the meeting. Having a health Visitor isn't compulsory but would be frowned upon if not. Hang On in there lovely x.
Rusty
Are you on mums net ? If so add me I can give you some advice . Obviously I'd need to know a rough outline as to why ss/ hv is involved.
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Are you on mums net ? If so add me I can give you some advice . Obviously I'd need to know a rough outline as to why ss/ hv is involved.
My user name is bec0310
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