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My partner was in prison for a short sentence. It was a shock, but he coped. He came out rather bitter, but also apprecited the things he took for granted before. With a sex offence, he should ask to be put on the Vulnerable Prisoners wing. It is much safer there. He suffered no violence. They may not automatically offer this, I believe you have to ask. But there is likely to be differences between prisons.

Sad mum

I am so sorry to hear your story. I have no advice as I don't know the awnsers. My son is being charged of 3 offences = 400 iioc.

Has your solicitor not got any advice ?

I am pretty sure prisons have a duty to protect, I would be asking what they put in place to protect offenders.

I would hope that they put him near but unfortunately it's where they have space .

From one heartbroken mum to another you must be beside yourself this isn't a nice journey to be on.

Reach out when you need to.

Sending love your way .x

My husband went to prison Friday, he is in a separation wing. It's hard but once you got his prison number it become easer. My hb is in isolation due to Covid rules,14 days. But the prison are very helpful and as its only 5 mths, there will not be time for him todo anything but normally there are things todo. You can email a prisoner, write letters, send photos, put money on their account and purple visits are just like face time. But the prisons are opening now,so soon hopefully face to face visits will be available. It's hard, sad and quite frankly something I never though I would be going through.its just like the knock, you pick yourself up and carry on. I have lost much and today I lost my job. But I love him and know him better than the media xxxHugs

Totally heartbroken

I am sorry to hear your story, why have you lost your job that seems very unfair as you havnt done anything.

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I am self employed, so they just said sorry services no longer required. Xxxx em I am better than that. Hugs xc

Totally heartbroken

Of course you are hopefully something will come up soon. Hoping your OK.

Sending a hug your way xxx

Hi my partner was sentenced to just under 2 years inside then 2 on license. He is out later this year. I think prisoners are put on wings with others who have committed similar crimes from local areas. He says he doesn’t ask what others have done and same with him unless he tells them. He found it and still does find it very hard and was put on anti depressants but that’s just him and obvs realising what a stupid thing he did and the life he's lost. It’s the isolation that gets to him being locked in a cell most of weekend. If the prisoner knuckles down and behaves they get certain privileges. He works during the week, and he has done maths and English GCSEs. Also cleaning qualifications and he’s hoping to get his forklift truck license before he leaves, so there is plenty of opportunity to learn things and gain qualifications that people on the outside would have to pay for (depending how long they are in for)

He’s spoke of people who he gets on with inside, he’s quite easy going so don’t think he’s really had any trouble. At 1st he had to share a cell but I wondered if that’s so there’s someone watching them in their 1st weeks, don’t think he enjoyed sharing a cell toilet! Now he has his own cell with tv, radio, he’s also got a PlayStation that someone gave him! You can write and send photos, some via email, makes sure your son has your phone number address written down or in his head so he can ring.

I had to write to my partner inside as he was remanded in prison and he couldn’t remember anyone’s phone numbers etc to contact them.