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Not been on for a while cause just been trying to deal with life but got a big kick in the guts yesterday ss went and saw family member and wanted to know their understanding of what my partner has done. They sat there and said we don't know anything which really hurt because I have read all the reports to the one person and they where like no we don't know that or that. So then ss phoned me and she was like they don't know anything I was like they do cause I have told the one person and I was like I wanted to scream lair but can't do that. So I was like right OK who is lairing to ss who is lairing to me why are these people playing games I have been nothing but honest with them and my walls are going up. Then ss said right they have said if I carry on to have contact they will disown me from the family I am like in way it feels like u have already. Ss was like they see u as their daughter and want to support u thro this,, the more I look over my life with this family people it have always been controlling I like do u really want that. I am so run down I have a bad chest infection on antibiotics and can't talk because I have infection in my voice box to god I don't know how much more I can take. I have said there will be no contact between him and the kids but I just looking after me and the kids they can have my daughter of a weekend but I think I need to break away from it to heal everyone's opinion I just can't take anymore from them I have a small amount of support from others and I going to pull on that and focus on that so for so long of a rant but I just don't want toxic or controlling people around if u don't do this then we will walk that's not going to help me so I am going to sit and nod and we build xx x what do u think ladies xx

Hi becky I have not said I am staying or leaving I just have some many question and the whole of my partners conviction does not make sense. Ss say its all been a technigalit that why he did not get put on the SHOP or SOR but his crime I was told didn't meet the threshold of sex crime. His mother was very controlling over his life he lived to serve her if that makes sense and she has done the same with her daughter and she has moved out with her girlfriend. I do think that what is going on because but it worries me cause I had someone in my past do that I also have a feeling they trying to go after my daughter because ss also said her room at her nans was home from home draws full of cloths she olny goes one night a week or couple of days in the holidays. I don't do mind games this feels dangerous am I over reacting xxx

My partner is in prison,, we been together 10yrs,, I have said he is not returning home,, my daughter is 5. He has told me he has no intent in every acting it out,, I pulled her up last night and said u know what's in the reports and his mom replied well she said u know more I said I have told u everything I know. She can be a very controlling person always had my partner doing everything for her looking back we had been stop a couple of time when out with her and people u two make a lovely couple and she be like no that's my son. When she need him,, he was there in flash now he needs help she turned her back on him,, my gut is telling me there is more to this than meets the eye. Now it just feels like they trying it with me,, like u need to look after u and the kids and move forward u will meet a nice man and we will welcome into the family and u will be happy we promise that,, i will never stop them seeing my daughter but I don't think I will sevive this having all the family content contacting with options and talking and me and telling me what I need to do...